I've played a fair amount of these songs, here's what I remember about how they go:
Lonely Boy – Black Keys - kind of mediocre, we've been playing this one for a while.
The Middle – Jimmy Eat World - still great almost every time, even though this song came out when you're target audience were babies.
Folsom Prison Blues - Johnny Cash - this is a great one if you want one older dude to dance and have everyone else in the bar give him the stink eye.
Exes and Ohs – Elle King - somewhere between pretty good and great
Blister in the Sun – Violent Femmes - this song almost always goes over, I don't really know why.
Are You Gonna Be My Girl - Jet - usually pretty good, I've never noticed any dancers tripping over the stops in the song, its pretty well known, I think people know to expect it.
Take Me to the River – Talking Heads (I've never played this one, but I really can't see it working)
What I Got - Sublime - always good
Hard to Handle - Black Crowes - always good (I really hate this song and I wish it didn't work)
Who Knew - Pink - ok, not great, kind of bounces back in forth between manic and boring
Hit Me with Your Best Shot – Pat Benatar - pretty good
Funhouse – Pink - I always liked playing this song, but it was not a huge hit and people didn't always know it
American Girl – Tom Petty - almost always great, we usually end the second of third set with this one, I'm not sure why it wouldn't be a good set ender? We speed it up a fair amount.
I agree that this set list is not likely to be a huge hit with the under 30 crowd.
Also I wholeheartedly disagree that you should avoid well known hits. I've never had a single person come up at the end of the night and tell me we played songs that were too popular and too well known.
I have had bartenders tell me they were glad we didn't play Mustang Sally, but it doesn't fit in with our show anyway.
If you like using effects (sounds like you do) you should check out some pop and dance stuff like Lady Gaga, Kesha, etc.
I'm also in a female fronted party band, we do pretty well for ourselves.
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