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should I call?

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by AltIII, Feb 15, 2004.

  1. AltIII


    Sep 3, 2002
    Ok so while going with my friend to his restraunt's xmas bowling party, I meat one of his co-workers. I personally think she's quite attractive and we seem to hit it off. So afterwards, I ask my friend to get her phone number. He says he will but she has a boyfriend just so I know. So he manages to get her number (and tells she thought "he was cute". He being me.) So I call her a few times but we never manage to set up any sort of date. So I figure I don't want to bother with someone that is already involved and I chalk it up as yet another lost (which makes my game a steady 0% success rate)

    Now just recently, around the first weekend of Febuary, my friend informs me that she has recently broke up with her boyfriend. Now I haven't called her last week for two reasons: #1 valentines day was coming up and I didn't want to seem desperate not to be alone. #2 I didn't want to be the rebound guy.

    Now considering that I haven't called her since January, should I call her now? You think she would find it weird and a bit shady that I just now found a new interest in her? This is pretty much an open ended question, so if there's a compromise or a third option please feel free to offer your two cents.
  2. You could call her and go "Hey, it's been a while since we have talked, anything new?" or something of the sort and just kind of like "check in" and see how she is doing. Then I'd just see how it goes from there. Don't let her know you know she broke up with her boyfriend though.
  3. Woodchuck


    Apr 21, 2000
    Atlanta (Grant Park!)
    Gallien Krueger for the last 12 years!
    Listen to me young man! You march yourself over there, and you kick in her door, kiss her full on the mouth and say, "Woman, I've got a hankerin' fer you!"
    Works everytime!
  4. AltIII


    Sep 3, 2002
    or I could kick your door down and punch you straight in the mouth. But both are improbable at the moment because I don't know where you or her live respectively. Plus she's like a senior in high school and still lives with her folks (as do I at age 20 :( ) and I doubt her or her folks will appreciate the B&E and the sexual assault.
    so yeah, I kinda want to avoid a restraining order.
  5. Just walk away...don't turn back, run for it. Seriously, don't go getting yourself into this underage stuff.
  6. i say call her. talk to her. if she likes you, and u like her, ask her out.

    or u could slowly stop calling her. breaking away connection instantly is sort of sudden.
  7. Woodchuck


    Apr 21, 2000
    Atlanta (Grant Park!)
    Gallien Krueger for the last 12 years!

    LOL!! Settle down warrior! I'm just kidding! BTW, I think the first response is the best one.
  8. i've got the number of a good escort service if you want it.
  9. AltIII


    Sep 3, 2002
    I'm pretty sure she's 18. She works at McDonalds till close, which is till about 1 in the mourning, and I believe it's illegal to have minors (under 18) work after 10 pm. But I could ask her to be safe.
  10. Josh Ryan

    Josh Ryan - that dog won't hunt, Monsignor. Supporting Member

    Mar 24, 2001
    Yep, this keeps sounding better and better. :rolleyes:


    Jun 1, 2003
    Orlando, FL
    so, do you get to go to her prom? :D
  12. AltIII


    Sep 3, 2002
    He he, yeah I knew you were kidding around. I just like to threaten people with violence for no reason at all, I think it's because I watched too much Smurfs as a kid.

    And DanceHall, thanks but no thanks. If I want a ho, I'll lower my pants, lower my ride, and lower my IQ in preperation for some Jay-Z CDs. :p
  13. primesuspect


    Feb 11, 2004
    Detroit, MI
    I'd say don't call - she's sure to know that YOU know that she's no longer with her boyfriend. Funny coincidence, you calling her just after a breakup..

    If she's interested, she'll call you ... IF she calls you, you're good as gold. But I would recommend against calling her.
  14. Trevorus


    Oct 18, 2002
    Urbana, IL
    lol, jay-z. Good one. :)

    Yeah, she's probably 18 or very very close. Call her and aske her what's up. Then just have a good conversation. If she seems like your type, at the end of the phonecall, just make a plan to meet somewhere. No date, just meet somewhere like a cafe or something. Pick up her tab at the cafe, and plan for another date. Kiss/hug/handshake is all by how the night goes. Most situations, just a kind goodbye is good for the first. Unless you REALLY hit it off. Don't seem too eager. Then just take it from there. Once the ride gets moving, keep all limbs inside the vehicle, and enjoy the ride. (I've always wanted to say that.)

    Good luck!
  15. Thor

    Thor Gold Supporting Member In Memoriam

    The balls on the ground. I can guarantee you, if you
    don't snap the ball soon, the clock is gonna run out.

    We're not talking TD here, but 3 yards and 2nd down ain't

    But if you walk off the field, I guarantee you that you will
    never succeed.

    Follow through on your instincts. 20 is not too old for an 18 year
    old woman, especially if she sent you a discreet positive

    Or you can head to the locker room and moan about how you are
    a loser.

    When the going gets tough, pick up the phone and ask for a date.
    Or 'meet me for coffee'. Show some interest ....

    Youth is wasted on the young, at your age I would have been all over that !!!
  16. Wrong Robot

    Wrong Robot Guest

    Apr 8, 2002
    Thor ==*

    the more you know
  17. Tim Cole

    Tim Cole

    Jun 12, 2002
    Findlay, Ohio
    I haven't called her last week for two reasons: #1 valentines day was coming up and I didn't want to seem desperate not to be alone.

    In other words, you didn't want to get stuck having to buy her something, nice move!

    #2 I didn't want to be the rebound guy.

    Yeah you do, trust me.
  18. Ahh, ok. When you said still in highschool I figured like 16-17.

    Thanks ;)
  19. Brendan

    Brendan Supporting Member

    Jun 18, 2000
    Austin, TX
    Tim is 100% right. I did the same darn thing (sans Valentines day). Being all chivalrous and sensitive to her personal space she might need....and lost her to a different guy. Nice gal. Probably would have been one of the best things that ever happened to me.

    Now, in keeping with Thor's analogy, get in there and win one for the Gipper, son!
  20. Tim Cole

    Tim Cole

    Jun 12, 2002
    Findlay, Ohio
    [annoyingmegaphonevoice]And the rebound guy scores again!!!![/annoyingmegaphonevoice]

    Seriously, what do you have to lose?? If she says no, you will be in the same spot you are now, no net loss. At the very least, maybe you can get super size meal upgrades for free.

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