This is an answer that everyone just glosses over as if it is unimportant or not correct. The fact is that with proper technique, small hands can play most any neck. Further more, a meatier neck puts you hand in better posture to avoid tendon and and joint injury.
If you get some instruction on proper technique and practice with the same bass, you will get used to a meaty neck and it will become comfortable. If you think a P bass neck is meaty, try playing double bass. People do and people with small hands do. I know, I am one.
Much agreed. One also needs to be very careful or the masses get very offended, which I fully accomplished recently responding in a thread complaining about gloss finished necks.
Technique is generally something most musicians gloss over. I've known a few teachers who don't even teach it, especially if they weren't taught it by their teacher (and so on). Inefficiency, being only able to play certain neck shapes, and long term joint/nerve damage can happen to us mortals if we don't use proper technique.