moving in with my parents is not an option.
id rather have instruments than a car.
and im currently looking for a better job. and have been for a long time.
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so.. i was robbed last night
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moving in with my parents is not an option.
id rather have instruments than a car.
and im currently looking for a better job. and have been for a long time.
You'll notice he hasn't responded to that one...
ive taken to not addressing points that just piss me off. my idea of telling you what i think of what you said tends to get me in a lot of trouble around here because talking like an adult is strictly forbidden.
yes i have a superiority complex. its well documented and under control. a lot of straight edge people, my girlfriend included, are well aware and totally fine with it. some arent that way. i am. i choose my company wisely and my judgments of people keep me out of a lot of trouble and mental anguish.
im supposed to do better than this? the only field of work ive ever been able to stay in without some sort of "we cant afford to keep you" layoff. not having a car payment. living as cheap as possible. what am i supposed to sacrifice that i havent already? one more sacrifice and i might as well jump off a bridge. i work terrible hours to pay my bills. i rarely see my friends. im 22. this isnt healthy. and yet i do it anyway so i can live.
so dont you go judging my situation that you dont know a damn thing about, and then trying to egg me on. you big goofy doodoo head.
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You can always go wait tables. In my experience that's the easiest job to walk into and make money right off the bat if you have a good work ethic and can hustle.
1) Then get a place with your girlfriend or someone else to help with rent.
2) A good running car is going to be more useful than a guitar sitting in a case under your bed.
3) I have a feeling you don't come across well in interviews.
Hey man,
I know to a degree what your going through. I was broken into, xbox, games, dvd, expensive ornamental swords, bike, cash, gone.
I was lucky in that the TV was an old 29' CRT Sony with lead control box (you wont get far with that) and they clearly werent fussed about guitars as none were taken.
But the feeling of having been violated? Oh yeah its there, when you go to sleep, its there when you go out and especially when you come home.
I lasted another 6 months in the place and moved. It wont ever be the same.
Alas I didnt have Contents/Renters insurance either.....AND I WORK FOR AN INSURANCE COMPANY = IDIOT!
I know to a degree what your going through. I was broken into, xbox, games, dvd, expensive ornamental swords, bike, cash, gone.
I was lucky in that the TV was an old 29' CRT Sony with lead control box (you wont get far with that) and they clearly werent fussed about guitars as none were taken.
But the feeling of having been violated? Oh yeah its there, when you go to sleep, its there when you go out and especially when you come home.
I lasted another 6 months in the place and moved. It wont ever be the same.
Alas I didnt have Contents/Renters insurance either.....AND I WORK FOR AN INSURANCE COMPANY = IDIOT!
Epically funny. I'll cry myself to sleep at the lack of opportunity faced by a healthy young white male in America. You poor, poor baby. But at least you have your contempt of your fellow man to keep you warm!
Get robbed: check. Whine about it: check. Admitting to having a superiority complex (apparently spawned by being all straight-edge): check. Not seeing how every post you make is making you look more like someone in need of an ID-10-T card: priceless.
im not bitching about working hard for what i have. i have exactly what ive worked for and earned honestly. its everyone's typical white advice of "just move" "get a better job" "buy new stuff" and my saying that my particular situation doesnt allow that is letting you people twist my words into me complaining.
do i like my monetary status? not really. have i accepted it? yes. so long as my car keeps moving, im okay with nothing in it working and playing dumb to the cops when they pull me over for half of my lights not working. i was fine living out of my comfort zone until people started climbing in the windows.
well aware that there are opportunities. thats why i write and perform music, as well as record bands in my spare time. passion could earn me money. im also working hard to advance within my company, but that seems to be a total wash. im fine where i am, so long as nothing gets worse (ie things getting stolen).
and for the record, i have contempt for the majority of my species. at least 2 of them broke into my house. a couple more were pathetic parents. some more terrible family members. we are among drug addicts and selfish monsters and im supposed to keep liking people when the good majority of them are across the line of "bad people" and the rest of them walk the line for fun. no thanks.
vent and whine are not interchangeable
i had the superiority complex long before.
im a tall glass of water. definitely not for everyone. clearly not for you.
living with women landed me in a LOT of trouble once. no thanks. never again. my friends are all still in school and living at home. they all seem to have it made right where they are. im the only one with parents that would just throw me out because they deem me too old to live there.
my car runs.. just not so great on gas. and at its age, who knows what will happen. all of the comforting devices are shot. one headlight, one wiper, no brake lights, no a/c, no radio. i can live with all that.
and i actually SLAY interviews when its a job i actually want. trouble is finding a job better than the one ive already got to bother interviewing. all within my parameters of close to home, and not food service.
Clearly. And you don't have a superiority complex, you're just an arrogant a-hole
seems like every time i get home and go to put my key in the door, i stop and wonder if they came back. its irrational, but i wasnt too pleased to open the door and find that the first time.
the renters insurance was 100% my fault and i WONT make that mistake again.
Clearly. And you don't have a superiority complex, you're just an arrogant a-hole
im a real sweet guy if you're good enough to be my friend. if you can't accept that i don't like most people, then you dont apply.
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What exactly is this job you have that you act like is so great, yet you keep saying how broke you are? It's not really that hard to make ends meet in Ohio. You're not exactly living in Miami.
The reason you aren't moving up in the world is that you're a) LAZY and b)PROUD. I know there are certain jobs that aren't that glamorous, I spent several years working jobs that were pretty demeaning while I was working towards what I really wanted to do. But you're an adult now, and sometimes you have to do things you don't like in order to get where you need to be. I'm sure you already know this, you just don't want to accept it. As for your parents, they're probably giving you a little "tough love", because you come off like a spoiled brat.
I'm sure all this will piss you off, but the truth is you need to hear it. You sound like a bunch of guys I grew up with who never went anywhere because they just never grew up and took responsibility for their own life.
And I'm sorry to tell you this, but the guys who broke into your place WILL be back. They've already seen how easy it is to break in, they've seen what you have, and they will be back for those guitars. There's no amount of security that can keep someone out if they really want to get in. You need to get out of there if you want to have anything left. Or at least get renters insurance. You can usually get coverage for about $15 a month. No excuse not to have it.
The reason you aren't moving up in the world is that you're a) LAZY and b)PROUD. I know there are certain jobs that aren't that glamorous, I spent several years working jobs that were pretty demeaning while I was working towards what I really wanted to do. But you're an adult now, and sometimes you have to do things you don't like in order to get where you need to be. I'm sure you already know this, you just don't want to accept it. As for your parents, they're probably giving you a little "tough love", because you come off like a spoiled brat.
I'm sure all this will piss you off, but the truth is you need to hear it. You sound like a bunch of guys I grew up with who never went anywhere because they just never grew up and took responsibility for their own life.
And I'm sorry to tell you this, but the guys who broke into your place WILL be back. They've already seen how easy it is to break in, they've seen what you have, and they will be back for those guitars. There's no amount of security that can keep someone out if they really want to get in. You need to get out of there if you want to have anything left. Or at least get renters insurance. You can usually get coverage for about $15 a month. No excuse not to have it.
I'm intrigued at what I see as your harshness.
He had the skills one acquires in getting a college education...time management, communication, etc. He had the body of an athlete, and presumably a big one given that he did his college degree on a basketball scholarship. He has the look of someone who has succeeded. What does "deliberately hid his education" mean beyond that he didn't tell people. How typical are his experiences?
Unemployment is not as bad in the US as it was a year ago, but it's still running at 8 or 9%.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for people getting in and having a go and I don't think I am a bleeding heart. But it can be really easy for someone who has always led a comfortable middle class existence to not understand what it's like to struggle and not have the education / social capital it takes to get ahead.
He had the skills one acquires in getting a college education...time management, communication, etc. He had the body of an athlete, and presumably a big one given that he did his college degree on a basketball scholarship. He has the look of someone who has succeeded. What does "deliberately hid his education" mean beyond that he didn't tell people. How typical are his experiences?
Unemployment is not as bad in the US as it was a year ago, but it's still running at 8 or 9%.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for people getting in and having a go and I don't think I am a bleeding heart. But it can be really easy for someone who has always led a comfortable middle class existence to not understand what it's like to struggle and not have the education / social capital it takes to get ahead.
i am a stock clerk at a kroger. not great. but its secure. im union. ive been doing this off and on since i was 14. something i know how to do well. i know its cheap here. and a really cheap part of town. from the hood to the next town over (where i was raised), the rent is about 50 dollars more and the places arent as nice as this one. they wanted 450 for a moldy closet there, i got a nice looking place here for 375. other than the apparent crime, its great here.
lazy isnt it. proud is. i wont touch food or money. id rather be dead. and i mean that. i wont accept welfare or hand outs. the grocery store is pretty demeaning. it wasnt tough love. it was my dad thinking "i moved out when i was 18, he's 20, he can get out". and ive been on my own since. i wasnt spoiled. i had a job when i was 14. paid for driving school, all but one of the cars ive owned, and all my equipment. i worked 20 hour weeks on TOP of being an honor student. there was never any help from them, just belligerently drunken beatings.
as far as i can tell, they checked the place out, took what they could grab and bolted. then proceeded to attempt another break at another apartment in the next day, and then actually break in yet another a couple days later. they clearly arent very smart. i was gone for 6 hours when they broke in the first time. they had plenty of time, didnt use it. the stuff they didnt take wasnt pulled out, examined and then discarded. it was skipped over entirely.
ive also been keeping a light on while im gone. i know its not much, but this looks less like an inside job all the time. clearly not spying on me, clearly dont know what i have.
their past point of entry has been taken care of. the window is now back in place, locked, and jammed shut with a piece of wood. if they want in now, they are breaking glass and someone will DEFINITELY hear that.
renters insurance is being taken care of. and according to the new property management, the old landlord lost my lease form, and they want me to sign a new one (retroactively dated of course) so everything is official. before that, im going to decide if i want to get the hell out of here while im not legally bound. i really dislike moving, and i have no idea where i'd go.
Maybe a different woman would work if you learn from past mistakes. Don't any of your friends want to move out and get started in life?
Eventually you'll get pulled over and get a ticket for one or more of your car problems, unless it's a parking ticket it will probably cost more than you can spare.
When was the last interview you had for a job you really wanted?
When I was on my own I got a job working for the management of the building I lived in doing maintenance (painting cleaning) maybe ask about some part time work doing that stuff. You might learn some other job skills along the way.
If you are as bright as you are making out, why are you limiting yourself to a job you got when you were 14?
You complain about other peoples suggestions:
"its everyone's typical white advice of "just move" "get a better job" "buy new stuff" and my saying that my particular situation doesnt allow that is letting you people twist my words into me complaining."
Why can't you move on? You have a college degree, you were an honour student, surely you can get a job that is better than stacking shelves?
All peolpe are trying to do here is give you the positive boot in the arse to try and help you get yourself out of this rut, as you said, you're miserable with where you are, maybe it's a boot you are needing, and one that you missed out on growing up?
You complain about other peoples suggestions:
"its everyone's typical white advice of "just move" "get a better job" "buy new stuff" and my saying that my particular situation doesnt allow that is letting you people twist my words into me complaining."
Why can't you move on? You have a college degree, you were an honour student, surely you can get a job that is better than stacking shelves?
All peolpe are trying to do here is give you the positive boot in the arse to try and help you get yourself out of this rut, as you said, you're miserable with where you are, maybe it's a boot you are needing, and one that you missed out on growing up?
Im not trying to pile on here, but whats with that bolded statement, there?
A new perspective on society will do you a LOT of good in life. Your enviroment is certainly doing you no favors, but it sounds like you had this disposition before you started living where you do now.
