Stress meter maxed out?

[DerHoggz]

I've been having temper problems as of late. Some stuff (nothing combat or military related) happened during my military service and I'm suffering from a very lightweight PTSD I think.

I can control most of my actions but how can one control their feelings? I'd like to know more please as this could also help me.

To me, feelings just come from inside. I sometimes distract my feelings but most of the time they overwhelm me.

Maybe not controlling feelings so much as confronting them and figuring out: what is causing them, if they are valid, what you should do, etc?

 

[bmc]

It seems you come by stress understandably. I just caught this article today in the Washington Post.

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As much as I miss Canada, the quality of life here is too good to walk away from.

 

[BboogieXVII]

For the record, I'm not a doctor, just a dirty welder who isn't the least bit qualified to be any kind of psychologist. However this chick is:
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I watched this right before I posted this. So no, I didn't get my "mantra" from her. I don't remember where I picked it up.

Quality talk, well worth looking into more of this sort of belief about stress. Also K.McGonigal is kind of hot!

 

[nukes_da_bass]

I hit this level two years ago. The solution for me? We have a plan- we just put a deposit on a new house build in the South - I'm selling my company, and going back to being a drone for a while. The new mortgage is cheap enough that everything will work and, if I get enough for my company that barely turns a profit, I pay down a bunch of principal on the new house and make things that much easier.
btw- 50 grand SUVs are a mistake the middle class makes for prestige. A car is not an investment it's a disposable commodity.

 

[fhm555]

...It is absolutely harder to make it now than it was thirty years ago...

When I was 17 I had a GTO and a Triumph 650 and could pay all my bills and still have enough to keep both my rides filled with gas.

I have no idea what kind of mileage either of my vehicles got because back then it was not an issue at all. My car was decently hot rodded so I figure it got around 8~10 MPG and I never had any concern about filling up it's 25 gallon tank.

I did all this on the kind of jobs your typical 17 YO kid could get.

Today your typical 17 YO lucky enough to find a job will need a ride to and from because even if they could afford transportation of their own they couldn't afford to keep gas in it.

As far as that goes, many adults are in the same boat these days. We have several counties here in Alabama were unemployment is under 6% but more than 70% of the (working) population is on some kind of government assistance because they don't make enough from their full time jobs to support themselves and/or their family.

As far as stress is concerned, you are the final arbiter of how much stress you carry. If it's daily living that has you knocked down, you need to find a way to deal with it. The occasional blip in life that brings on increased stress levels is expected, but to live with excess stress daily is IMO more of a personal thing that can be corrected by working on why you let so much get to you.

 

[i_got_a_mohawk]

Remember that post-WW2 the US economy boomed, in part due to Europe (and much of the rest of the world) being in tatters. The US simply didn't have competition when it came to industry.

That isn't the case now, and with the likes of China and India producing on a massive industrial scale, the US has a lot of stiff competition.

 

[Munjibunga]

Is it just me or have stress levels reached pandemic proportions? I get to work and my boss is in a pissy mood, therefore all my coworkers are in a pissy mood. I get home and my wife starts bitching the minute I walk through the door, about anything and everything, mostly about nothing, of course her bad mood gives my son a bad mood.... Now I'm generally a happy go lucky guy, but all this negative crap around me does take it's toll! I would say that stress is probably THE number one killer, yet all the focus is on obesity, smoking, etc.
Maybe we should be focusing on the root cause of stress instead.
Have we reached a point where our governments have as "all work, no play" just to make ends meet? Hard to buy that when some of the people who are stressed the most have 6 digit salaries and drive $50K SUV's. Is it just really like a pandemic where we all just pass it on to one another?
The other question is was the world always like this, or is this all new? Or maybe I'm just in the wrong circles, with the wrong job, and the wrong wife...
Could someone smarter than me please give me some insight!
Meanwhile, just dreaming of a cabin in the woods with just me and my bass guitar...

Maybe they should quit buying the cheap SUVs and get a nicer one.

 

[pacojas]

6stringVince:-

No ,you're right on the *money....stress is everywhere....

You described my life to a tee as well....but it gets worse..

Everything my wife says is a complaint of some sort.....

every day...

When anybody visits us they whine about something non-stop...

When you look at the neighbors outside or people walking their dogs ,most of the time they are muttering to themselves and swearing even though they are by themselves...

You drive downtown you can see the people passing in cars forming ugly words as they grimace at you...

When you get downtown everyone is walking around mumbling and complaining to themselves or anyone who will listen....

Even the telemarketers interrupt their spiel by whining about the lack of co-operation if *I haven't hung up already.

"chemtrails"?

 

[nukes_da_bass]

I see this as symptoms of the big Eastern and Western cities.
This is why I'm moving to a smaller metropolitan in the south. The bottom line is when sales reps of the house development companies were making their pitch to me, it's really only southeastern and Midwest cities where the land is affordable.
Everything in a local economy hinges off intrinsic Land values.
Unlike the Midwest, I can still eek a living in the Southeast- with similar land values. This means I can afford land and a house, as well as good clothing medicine and transportation. Even with less income I will be functioning further along Maslow's hierarchy of needs with less effort. Less effort means less stress!
This does not mean I want all of you to follow my lead- more competition will mean more effort hence more stress.