TERRIBLE band breakup? How to recover?

[TJH3113]

Pictures of the guitarist's Mom's breast implants or it didn't happen.

 

[Crowd crusher]

In my opnion it's not your business to try to fix their problems...if the guitarist thought having "certain relations" with drummers ex wouldn't cause a problem..then you might want to keep an eye on him in general..because that's definitely not on the "things you do to keep a band/friendship alive" list...if it was me. The guitarist would probably be out...their a dime a dozen

 

[Artobass]

Go get your equipment. Anyone who throws things (sticks in this case) would be fired immediately or I'm gone. There are way too many good players out there with some degree maturity that have good skills.

 

[ThePresident777]

Write a hit song about it, by yourself. Make sure to include the part about the implants.

EDIT:
Just add implants:

 

[Ric5]

Some of the greatest moments in my life were joining a band ...

... and ...


... also leaving a band.

 

[wideload]

Yep, Taylor Swift would make a million writing about this! When you replace the band members, choose adults this time.

 

[Cheez]

When you are 30 years old, look these two guys up and see if they are still playing. Betcha at least one "stopped playing years ago". Due to these kind of behaviors, they will have been weeded out by folks who are more serious/professional.

 

[HolmeBass]

I don't want to do that though. 6 months of music and practice has been invested in this

6 months is nothing. Be thankful it's not 6 years and start putting something else together on the side.

 

[bassplayer2014]

Any pictures of the mom?

 

[Lowness]

btw at one point the drummer commented on how he felt about the guitarists' mothers breast implants.

Unbeatable.......your drummer knows his stuff.

 

[40Hz]

Stay out of it. If you become their audience, they'll each start trying to prove to you they're right. And they'll stop trying to work it out between themselves.

FWIW it's a no-win situation due to a certain lack of maturity on the part of the drummer.

You don't ever own somebody else. Not when you're in the relationship. And definitely not once you're out of it. Truth is, once you're no longer together, you can't even retain any expectations. Over is over.

Your drummer obviously hasn't gotten that memo.

 

[tbz]

You have six months invested in this? SIX MONTHS? That's almost as much time as some guys have invested in a pair of dirty socks! I would do something, but I'm not sure what.

6 months is nothing. Be thankful it's not 6 years and start putting something else together on the side.

I was told 9 years into a project, after my tracks were done on an upcoming LP full of material I co-wrote, that I was going to get 10% of the take, in a four person band.

At that point I had carried the singer through 6 or 7 lineups. All sorts of bull completely unpaid, with the promise that I'd eventually be compensated with a somewhat equal share to his. Probably did 80-100 shows uncompensated on top of it all.

6 months is nothing.

 

[BassByBaldSteve]

Guitarist broke the code; he's gotta go. A guy that pulls that move can't be trusted at any level. Get as far away from him as you can.

 

[mellowinman]

Also, feel free to date any of my exes. I don't recommend it, but to each his own.

 

[Hahaha]

Never bring a guitar pick to a drum stick fight.

 

[DChalo]

The only reason i hate 6 months a big deal is because we are all in college and we worked around each other's schedules and jobs and were still able to rehearse every week. I understand though about it not being too long

 

[DChalo]

Never bring a guitar pick to a drum stick fight.

Hahaha

 

[onlyclave]

I have only been in one band my entire life, so i'm not sure how to gauge the seriousness of events, but this seems big. So long story short, the guitarist and drummer of my band started having problems when the guitarist started having certain relations with the drummers ex girlfriend. At our latest rehearsal, there was a bunch of jabber between the guitarist and drummer about how they were messing up the parts and It ended with the drummer throwing his sticks at our guitarist, breaking one of his strings and leaving. I want to fix this without replacing members of the band, since we all have been working so hard at learning the music for our setlist. What should I do???


btw at one point the drummer commented on how he felt about the guitarists' mothers breast implants. That is how bad it got and it was UGLY.

Anyways I really want to fix the band without losing members, what should I do????

Sounds like something that happened in my middle school band 30 years ago too. Good thing you can sell you gear on Craigslist, start another thread that no one will buy your Sqwyarr parts bass for $800 + shipping and you can quit music for good.

Find new people to play with.

/thread.

 

[Cole Louis Allar]

That is how bad it got and it was UGLY

btw at one point the drummer commented on how he felt about the guitarists' mothers breast implants. That is how bad it got and it was UGLY.

Anyways I really want to fix the band without losing members, what should I do????

That would be the final nail in the coffin for me. Commenting on your mothers breast implants, that is going to far! Hang in there man! You'll find another band to be in!

 

[Mosstone]

Sorry guy, but your band is done... I wouldn't worry, though. Just as very few of us end up marrying our first girlfriend (boyfriend, significant other, whatever), even fewer find success with their very first band. It's normal.

Six months isn't really a long time. Try being in a gigging band for a few years (playing original material) that eventually falls apart... Then, you can get depressed.

Also, acts of violence (throwing things at people with the intent to injure) should never be tolerated. If that's your drummer's way of dealing with anger, he shouldn't be in a band... he should be in therapy.


And BTW, Yoko did NOT break up the Beatles. They were already well on their way before she showed up.