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Three Words That Will Transform Your Career

#21
Schlyder said:
When I read crap like this, I am thinking to the author... Maybe some people don't want your help? Maybe they want you to mind your own business. What makes you think you are better than another person that you feel you need to help them? Maybe you need help?

I am all for self improvement, and for helping people out when they ask for help.... But this kind of thinking is self righteous ego boosting.

I have 3 words to help you advance your career. DO YOUR JOB.

Or 5 words... THE BOSS IS ALWAYS RIGHT.
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I hear what you are saying but I got something different from the way Mike presented the article.
Yes, there are fixers that want to jump into every situaltion and make it right. Have you ever just been commiserating and someone jumps in with textbook fixes before you even finish what you are saying? I see it happen here on T.B. (although no one has ever interrupeted me.) Sometimes it is better to just pull back and observe and/or listen. You are right people are not always asking for help sometimes they just want someone to hear what is happening. Also sometimes it is better to let people go through their struggles. If I am always trying to fix people right away it probably is about me. The situation makes me uncomfortable and I want it to go away. That is a good time to pull back and ask myself why the situation makes me uncomfortable.
On the other hand it is a good thing to always try and love the person in front of me. Sometimes it is more difficult than others. That can come out in different ways. Sometimes it means offering my money and/or time. Sometimes it just means a smile, or everything else in between. Yes, everything I do is self motivated on some level, I am a human bieng. Trying to make the world around me a better place is ultimately self motivated. But that doesn't make it wrong.
As far as doing these things to advance my career I'm not so sure. I think I should do my job well becuase I get paid for it. I also try and be a helpful person because that is who I am. Ever hear of the concept of a servant leader?
 
#23
slobake said:
I hear what you are saying but I got something different from the way Mike presented the article.
Yes, there are fixers that want to jump into every situaltion and make it right. Have you ever just been commiserating and someone jumps in with textbook fixes before you even finish what you are saying? I see it happen here on T.B. (although no one has ever interrupeted me.) Sometimes it is better to just pull back and observe and/or listen. You are right people are not always asking for help sometimes they just want someone to hear what is happening.
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Sounds like your preamp battery is dead. A fresh 9V should clear up all of your problems.
 
#26
I generally agree with the OP. I'll take good over evil any day. But I don't think there's anything wrong with being altruistic. It's not a sign of weakness as long as it's not done to one's own detriement. On the contrary, it takes a strong and wise person to know the difference and to have the necessary skills to apply their altruism appropriately. It's fine to genuinely care about helping others for their own benefit as well as your own. It doesn't have to be entirely selfish, nor ideally should it, imo.
 
#29
I'd say the essence of the message is to be open to helping others. Foisting oneself upon another in an effort to "straighten them out" is not the same as having a positive outlook and a generous spirit.

If you are ever in a position to help someone, you should help, because it is wise and it is smart, and most of the time all it costs you is some time. (This does NOT mean doing someone's job for him or her.)

Many times you can improve a situation just by not being so focused on yourself. Helping your environment, your surroundings, your team, helps YOU. Popular culture emphasizes short-term gains and tactical victories over long-term sustainability and strategic forethought. Instant results are never guaranteed unless you are doing something stupid and/or destructive.

Not allowing yourself to be dominated by your own (or anyone else's) overly-competitive nature is a good way to start. Leaving wreckage in your wake only benefits you—and only sometimes. People who have to win all the time and who have to be first at everything are kind of sad. Those who end up with the most money and stuff don't generally end up with the most happiness.
 

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