To play at daughters wedding or not

[Moe Hickey]

DO WHATEVER SHE WANTS. It's her day.

 

[petrus61]

I knew a drummer whose daughter asked him to play the whole wedding because she knew it would keep him occupied long enough not to get drunk and completely ruin the wedding with his asinine, intoxicated behavior. She wanted him there and figured he'd be an embarrassment either way, so I guess she chose the lesser of two evils. What do you think happened? Yep. Got drunk AND played the drums.

 

[gjohnson441496]

When it comes to voting, I usually cast my vote without a response regardless if I'm in the majority or minority but in this case I'd like to chime in and say that you should play the whole wedding. Why not? It'll be more fun than just being there. How can you refuse when your daughter wants you to do it. What a cool thing for a daughter to want her bass playing dad to do. Play the whole thing and have fun man. Congrats on your daughters marriage. YOU evidently, did a great job.

 

[penguineman]

Oh she doesn't have to worry about me getting drunk. I don't drink being diabetic and. The wedding is over a hour from our house. Gotta drive home. I'm not sure if she thinks it will keep me busy or what plus my wife has never got to see me perform since she is in a wheelchair and doesn't get out a whole lot. I don't know what to make of it. I personally feel I need to get around and thank everyone personally and do the normal fatherly duties that most father's do.

 

[Wesley R]

I played half a dozen songs at my own. It worked well.

 

[Tampabass]

Is it possible she's asking you just to be polite, or to make you feel good? I'd err on the side of making this day be all about her. Maybe sit in one song. But spend the rest of the time doing all the stuff that dad is supposed to be doing on his daughter's wedding day. Can't do all that stuff if you're occupied with the band. My $.02. And congrats!

 

[Lvjoebass]

U are truely blessed she wants y'all to play! I was on stage 5 yes ago and got a text from my only daughter she was getting married in half an hour, could I be there? She new I had gig and was always a fan! She got married at a drive thru across town(this is Vegas) never showed at dads gig, marriage only lasted 3yrs! So enjoy her wedding and be glad to be included!!

 

[jjmuckluckjr]

What happened to the 'no' option? The wedding has only two important participants, the father of the bride and his betrothed. Traditionally, being the chief underwriter of this blessed event, the day's about the bride. The spotlight stays on her. Eat, drink, dance, enjoy. Stay off the stage at all costs. You'll thank me later. Good luck to the kids.

 

[superiorpine]

The wedding is about both the bride and the mother of the bride. My vote is to sit down with both of them at the same time, and agree that you will play, but only a limited amount. One song minimum, one set maximum. You have a very important support role in the coming together of two families. Playing a little ia a contribution. Playing all night makes you unavailable to fulfill your support role.

I think your initial instinct is right on the mark. Go forth, do good, have fun, and congratulations daddy!

 

[SunnBass]

Whoa SunnBass, take a chill pill, safe room to the right

I WILL NOT STAND FOR THIS!!!!



*sits down

 

[Bob Lee (QSC)]

So not to sure where to post this. My daughter is getting married in August and she is wanting me to play at her wedding. Well if I do then so much for getting to dance with her. So here is what I am considering is getting a band to play and I'll will set it up so I get to jump in for one or two songs. What do you guys think? I guess I'm old fashioned and think I really shouldn't play a lot of the songs and let another band play at the wedding.

I like your idea. Be the father of the bride, not a member of the band. Sit in for a song or two. That will be memorable.