I am really happy the discussion got going.
I have to agree that the band members need to know. The guys have been very supportive and helpful. The guitar player had a crazy car accident (he used to be a pro-driver) that resulted in him having to remove his spleen so he knows how it is to live with an incapacity (even though in his case he also got a superpower out of this. Apparently he never feels tired anymore). The other guitar guy, his dad had also part of his intestine removed and has been living with a colostomy bag for years so he is also familiar. Quite honestly I couldn't be more lucky regarding my bandmates.
Regarding tackling things head on, well I did not have a choice there either. It was either that or me passing away. It took me way too long to go and get checked and that almost cost my life. And money was never an issue, we get full coverage for these things in EU, it was just me being on denial hoping that I would eventually get better. That didn't really happen. That said here is my best advice. If there is blood in your stool, drop everything you are doing and go to a gastroenterologist ASAP.
For a long time I would get out of my flat only to go to work. I had become so weak it was ridiculous. My social and love life took a huge hit and I think I was getting mildly depressed.
But since things stabilised I have been very well. The stenosis troubled me for a couple of years. I was getting blockages relatively often until I had surgery.
But other than that I tolerate food very well compared to other people I know. Also if I absolutely have to drink I have found that beer messes my stomach too much but I tolerate white spirits quite well. Wine is also ok. As for coffee (or any caffeinated drink), it is like a time bomb. They send me to the bathroom within 30min. Tea is a little better, especially green but I don't drink that often anymore. Mate tea is by far the worst thing though. Milk is also a no-go. Physical activity also helps. I try to do as much as cardio based stuff as I can biking, swimming, jogging, yoga(I know...). I also do a little bit of lifting but since I got the surgery not as much since I was not allowed to lift anything heavy because of my stitches, but I am slowly getting back there. I used to bike 12km every day even when I was very sick and I actually thing it helped me quite a bit, but in hindsight it probably was not the best idea.
Those guys from the funeral homes are insane! That said, as a student I shortly worked in a funeral home and all I can say is that it is a very healthy business and they pay very well. Unfortunately a lot of the times people forgot that what is business to them it is a part of life for their customers so they were not as sensitive as they should be.
Truck stop food varies a lot from country to country. The two best ones by far are Turkey and Bulgaria. Turkey is kind of a gateway for a lot of truckers coming in and out of Europe so they offer a lot of options. Moreover because a lot of the drivers are Muslims the food is Halal (something similar to kosher), or at least kind of, not that many processed stuff and they offer a lot of vegetables and fruits which is nice (ironically they are even better than the stuff we get in nice stores in central and nothern europe). Bulgaria is the best though. There are these small grillhouses on the side of the highway. Very cheap, local meat being freshly grilled with very little seasoning, simple salad (tomatoes, cucumber and onions sometimes) and rice or (real fries). I have come to tolerate everything they offer there pretty well. But when uncertain I just go for the chicken.
In central and nothern europe I have found that time after time the safest thing to eat is Pho soup.(Vietnamese beef soup). I remember reading an interview from Justin Meldal Johnsen where he mentioned that. This piece of advice has saved me a few times. Sometimes they make it a bit spicey though but I always ask them not too. I have had very good luck with this dish even in some shady restaurants. Moreover there are a lot of soup sheds the further you go east in Europe. They are always a good alternative.
Yes Mike Mccready also has Crohn's disease. I chatted a few times with him and he is a super cool dude. Very supportive for people with Crohn's disease. There are few more guys in big bands that also have the disease and most of them have struggled quite a bit with it and were quite embarrassed by it. Quite honestly, by now I don't care. I have always liked toilet humour and by now I have taken it to whole other level. Many a drinks have been spilled through nostrils because of my colonoscopy stories
I have met a few people with Crohn's and Ulcerative colitis that had varied severity. The ones that were in a worse condition than me were all people that kept going without being treated, either because they never sought medical attention or because they were misdiagnosed or because they thought they could take care of things on their own. I still haven't met anyone who has died from it but I know a couple of guys that got pretty close. Support groups are helpful but not for everyone I think.