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Well, it's over...

Matt Till

Matt Till

Jun 1, 2002
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#1
My dad died.


The cancer finally won. Due to doctors who don't know what they are doing, with egos to large to say, "You need to go to a better hospital because we don't know what we are doing" he didn't get the treatment he needed soon enough. Eventually the cancer encompassed major portions of his body, including brain, liver, lung, adrenal glands, and there is no doubt more I'm forgetting.

So, if I'm a tad emo as of late, that's why. I have a favor to ask, one of my pet peeves is people saying "I'm sorry" as a general "I'm sorry to hear that" comment. It's nothing you have control over, so don't apologize. If you are responsible... I will kill you.

But, take my warning, if you or a loved one are diagnosed with cancer, don't mess around with doctors who seem incompetent. Because if you have a hunch that they are... they are. Go directly to a specialist, cut the middleman.

While we are doing public annoucments, sorry I'm not a supporting member, but I'm flat broke right now, and may be for a while. And please please please, no one renew my membership. (You know who you are) it makes me feel like a fraud/charity case. Thanks anyway.
 
#3
Wow Matt...I'm shocked. I thought this was going to a be a breakup thread or something but I'm shocked. I don't know what it must feel like to lose your father..I don't even want to think about it. I'll be praying for you.

brad cook
 
#5
Matt Till said:
My dad died.


The cancer finally won. Due to doctors who don't know what they are doing, with egos to large to say, "You need to go to a better hospital because we don't know what we are doing" he didn't get the treatment he needed soon enough. Eventually the cancer encompassed major portions of his body, including brain, liver, lung, adrenal glands, and there is no doubt more I'm forgetting.

So, if I'm a tad emo as of late, that's why. I have a favor to ask, one of my pet peeves is people saying "I'm sorry" as a general "I'm sorry to hear that" comment. It's nothing you have control over, so don't apologize. If you are responsible... I will kill you.

But, take my warning, if you or a loved one are diagnosed with cancer, don't mess around with doctors who seem incompetent. Because if you have a hunch that they are... they are. Go directly to a specialist, cut the middleman.

While we are doing public annoucments, sorry I'm not a supporting member, but I'm flat broke right now, and may be for a while. And please please please, no one renew my membership. (You know who you are) it makes me feel like a fraud/charity case. Thanks anyway.
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I had an similiar situation with my grandfather, except it was a heart attack. They didn't perform any procedures to see what they could do to prevent the next one for 48 hours. And by the time my dad could fly over there ( He's a cardiologist. Had to fly from west coast --> east ) He was already gone. :crying:
 
#10
I just like challaging people, try dealing with this thread without the "s" word... can you do it!! Muhuhuh ha ha.

Just so everyone knows my status. I'm OK with it. He wasn't himself over the past 2 weeks. I'd see brief moments of him being himself. But he was in so much pain and he was so disoriented that I've been grieving his loss since then, so I've had time to prepare I suppose.
 
#18
Good luck, Matt.

Something I've done in the past, after losing someone close, is think of something that that person had wanted to do (or had done often), and then do it. Skydiving (as an example, I haven't done that yet), Hiking up a certain mountain, rafting down a river, visiting a place etc. Sort of general things, I've found it sort of gives me a sense of closure.

I like to think that people can live on, after death, through the memories and experiences and influences they've had on people that are still alive. Just something I do.

Take Care.
 
#19
Matt -

Hang in there. It never gets easy, but it does get easier to bear, over time. Concentrate on the many good years you had with him, and try not to think so much about the last few weeks. I lost my mom this past November, and I know what you're going through. Feel free to PM if you want to talk. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

Brian
 
#20
Matt, I'll pray for you and your family today. I hope you have great memories of your dad. They aren't as good as having your dad (I lost mine in '99, so I know), but they're the best we can do. I think about my dad virtually every day, even if it's only a few moments.

I would encourage you to honor your dad and his memory by living your life in ways that would make him proud.
 

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