In response to the frequent,
"Well, it doesn't bother ME!" sorts of replies...
What eternally confounds me, both here on TB and in the World-at-large, is the
bleak lack of empathy, sympathy and/or understanding. So, as a health professional, I'll put it this way;
- Someone says their instrument is too heavy for them, but not too heavy for you? Guess what...they are not you.
- Someone is frequently bogged down by chronic pain and/or infirmity, but you are not? Shocky-shocky...they are not you.
- Someone can't/won't play instruments with certain, physical specs, but you can play it without a problem? You've probably guessed it by now...they are not you.
We may be built along the same, general
"bilateral symmetry", but you don't have to dig much deeper to start seeing the differences crop up and, sometimes, how they can be a roadblock to certain ends.
(Apologies to anyone who falls outside of the "bilateral symmetry" groove. I'm just trying to make a point, not to be some kind of "ableist".)
I see this dynamic, this severe lack of empathy, between two friends of mine and it drives me nuts! One is in frequently in pain...all thanks to a doctor driving drunk in the pre-MADD days...and the other keeps getting annoyed when plans have to change because of said chronic pain. And now, I have to bite my tongue when the latter starts complaining about his newest, age/lack-of-self-care-induced aches and pains. But, I suppose it's better that than screaming, "NOW do you know what if feels like?!!", even though I really, really want to. Sadly, it would accomplish nothing but spark recriminations and deflections.
So, please-oh-please, do not condemn/curse/lambaste those who can't do what you do, or live in a different body and/or situation than you do. It is patently unfair. The least we can do is be a little sympathetic and, maybe, be there for them should they need a hand or a little bit of gentle guidance. Best of all, it costs less than the cheapest bass!