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What do you consider over protective parenting ?

MAJOR METAL

MAJOR METAL

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#1
What do you consider over protective parenting ? I have seen some pretty bizare examples of this over the years with my envolvment in the Ministry. The one thing that sticks out that seems pretty common to all of those I would say who are over protective parents is this over exaggerated sense of danger the world poses to their child thus they create this seperate world in their homes. The created universe according to them is in no way in touch with the "Real World" the world that child will have to be intergrated to at some point.
 
#2
Not letting 8 year old kids out to ride their bikes around the neighborhood unsupervised.

I live in a small town, so it's not so bad, kids are pretty independent, but I know kids who never get to just go out and play without constant adult supervision.
 
#4
Bad stuff happened when we were kids. But you weren't constantly inundated with it by the voyeuristic cable "news" networks. They've got everybody worked up and scared, when statistically we're probably safer than we've ever been.
 
#5
Most certainly.

My parents didn't let me play with matches, but that's because I was/am a pyromaniac. But I had a pocket knife no problem. My little brother went to boyscouts for a while. They gave them knives. They all cut themselves up. Double you tee eff?????? Don't touch the sharp part! It's ridiculous.
 
#8
I would say parents who monitor each and every thing that their child does, and place huge restrictions on their children's lives. For example, not allowing the child to play any sports in school for fear of them getting injured, or not allowing them to make friends or attend parties. They may not allow their child to play video games, watch any movie PG or above, and turn off the television if they see cartoon characters kiss for it is "too sexually graphic". They complain to the school and pull their children out of sex ed, and complain that the schools need to tighten their rules.

On the other side of the spectrum, there are parents who want to be "cool" and be friends with their kids instead of parents. They allow their teens to throw keg parties (hell, some buy them the beer!), and in general allow the kids to run wild and do whatever they want. They complain to the schools (or to the courts if the kid gets arrested) and say "oh, not MY child".

The former will produce naive, sheltered idiots, the latter irresponsible, immature idiots.
 
#9
Vince S. said:
I would say parents who monitor each and every thing that their child does, and place huge restrictions on their children's lives. For example, not allowing the child to play any sports in school for fear of them getting injured, or not allowing them to make friends or attend parties. They may not allow their child to play video games, watch any movie PG or above, and turn off the television if they see cartoon characters kiss for it is "too sexually graphic". They complain to the school and pull their children out of sex ed, and complain that the schools need to tighten their rules.

On the other side of the spectrum, there are parents who want to be "cool" and be friends with their kids instead of parents. They allow their teens to throw keg parties (hell, some buy them the beer!), and in general allow the kids to run wild and do whatever they want. They complain to the schools (or to the courts if the kid gets arrested) and say "oh, not MY child".

The former will produce naive, sheltered idiots, the latter irresponsible, immature idiots.
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agreed
 
#12
guy n. cognito said:
Kid leashes. That is all.
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I don't see that as over protective. It's more of a matter of convenience and even safety. I used a leash on my 2 year old when I was at Disneyland, so he could walk around more freely and not have to be right at my feet. Also, its really hard to walk while holding a kids hand if you have a bad back. I left the shock collar at home though--didn't think Mickey would appreciate it.
 
#15
ImaStupidBaby said:
my mom had one of those for me when I was really young. she said that one day at the mall I humiliated her by getting on my hands and knees and barking like a dog. she was so embarrassed she never used the kid leash ever again. :D
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Wow, those things are real?

Now, they're coming out with those implantable RFID chips that they can inject under a kid's skin so the parents can track them via GPS. :rollno:
 
#16
Bryan316 said:
Man.... I used to go biking around my neighborhood, just to bike around. Learn the street names. Learn where the roads led. To learn my neighborhood.


Kids these days have SWAT teams hunting them down if they're late for dinner.
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Mexico, and the market at Nuevo Progreso, was only five miles away. Turquoise, dulces, cute leather bags, and my allowance burning a hole in my pocket.

We rode our bikes to Mexico on a routine basis.

My mother didn't know. She thought we were just riding in town. And we did ride all over town. Kids can't do that anymore. :(

Our old neighbors wouldn't let their kids play with mine. The mom was super-protective. They were only allowed to watch religious kids' programming, and listen to religious music. If they got a bug bite (they got chiggers playing in my back yard), she acted like they had a dread disease that I gave them on purpose. They could never be outside, even in their own yard, unless one of their parents stood outside to watch their every move.

Pah. Too much hovering. Those kids will rebel hard, and not be able to use their own judgement wisely.

Cherie
 
#17
txbasschik said:
Mexico, and the market at Nuevo Progreso, was only five miles away. Turquoise, dulces, cute leather bags, and my allowance burning a hole in my pocket.

We rode our bikes to Mexico on a routine basis.

My mother didn't know. She thought we were just riding in town. And we did ride all over town. Kids can't do that anymore. :(

Our old neighbors wouldn't let their kids play with mine. The mom was super-protective. They were only allowed to watch religious kids' programming, and listen to religious music. If they got a bug bite (they got chiggers playing in my back yard), she acted like they had a dread disease that I gave them on purpose. They could never be outside, even in their own yard, unless one of their parents stood outside to watch their every move.

Pah. Too much hovering. Those kids will rebel hard, and not be able to use their own judgement wisely.

Cherie
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Your neighbors were the Flanders?:p
 
#20
I think it really depends on the community/area you live in. I lived in a small farming town growing up. I had a lot of independence compared with a lot of people I know who grew up in very large cities, even though compared to a lot of my friends parents growing up, my parents would have been considered pretty strict.
 

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