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What stops stage fright

Had a gig last night, opened for davey suicide and crazy town. I let my nerves get to me. Musically I was almost flawless but I stood there like a stump. My guitarist is super energetic and has been doing this for ever. I have to move more, what will help. I don't care what it takes, drugs booze whatever I HAVE to move and not get that trembly knee bs again

John Entwistle rarely moved and nobody really cared. You will get more comfortable the more you gig. Drugs and booze are not the answer. Maybe get some counseling.
 
Beta blockers. Great for stage fright. The down side of these is that they also make it harder to enjoy the adrenaline rush that you get on stage which is why most of us do this in the first place. I keep some on hand and decide about an hour before the show if I need them or not. Usually not but if there's something going on that makes me anxious, like playing with a new player or lack of confidence in my familiarity with the material, they can make a huge difference.
 
Set yourself up for success...Wear clothes that are comfortable for you to be in. Practice enough so you know without a doubt that you can nail your parts. Practice moving around at band practice so you know you'll perform well even when you're moving around. Your movements don't have to be totally random, so maybe pre-plan movements you're going to do in parts of songs, and practice that!

As others have said, there will always be some nerves...that's a good thing!
 
Alcohol.

The catch is that you then get massive amounts of stupid.
You don't want that onstage (or off).

I find that once you reach the point of knowing
that you and your bandmates are all well versed on what
you will play and how and you trust them to be pros,
it all falls into place.

I enjoy watching the audience.
I remember one gig where I watched a guy shooting pool
that would run over and talk to a woman in the back
near the pool tables every time her husband got up to
get more beer.
The drummer and I had a bet on which set there would be a fight,
after he caught on.
Third set.
Drummer won.
That guy was a bit slower than I thought.
 
Repetition is the #1 remedy. The more you do it, the easier it gets.

When I was in college, somebody told me to remember that I am performing in a room full of people who want me to do well. All the energy is positive, and that I can accept that it is there, use it, and channel it back to the audience. That helped me.
 
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Moving about on stage isn't always the coolest thing you can do:





If you can, maybe watch some comedy - a) you'll take your mind off of it and b) laughter is always good for you.
Great clips. Can't blame either of those bass players, honestly. I've been temped to dance around like a spaz while playing some moldy old CCR song. And that singer on the Bill Withers song so had it coming.
 
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it is just Energy ... so , use it to your advantage ... you said it yourself - " i let my nerves .... "

i started playing piano in front of larger crowds ( maybe 2,000 ish ) at around age 10-11 ...

nervous energy is great ... !! sounds like you focused it on your ' playing ' , now focus some of it on your ' performance ' ... !
 
I still get stage fright. Happened again last night in our jazz ensemble gig. It's frustrating and I brain farted on some stuff I had down. I just have to practice to 150% percent knowing that stage fright takes away 33% of my skills. The good news is that each time my stage fright is a bit lower than it was before.

So, repetition.
 
The first band I was in my cousin was the bass player, and he used to hide behind his amp. You can't stop the bugger taking the odd lead vocal now, from the front of the stage. Many famous people suffer from stage-fright. I guess you either grow out of it, or you don't. Either way, just do whatever you can to maximise your enjoyment of what it is that you're doing, even if it does mean hiding behind your amp.
 
Alcohol.

The catch is that you then get massive amounts of stupid.
You don't want that onstage (or off).

If you're someone who can drink in moderation, ONE glass of wine or shot about a half hour or so before the first set can help you relax. Lots of people drink beer but I don't want the rental effects of beer to hit me half way through a set so I stick with wine.

Unfortunately, music and substance issues tend to go hand and hand for many, so this is crap advice for many people here, I'm sure. There's a fine line between what's helpful for relaxation and what makes you sloppy and if you can't control it, better to stay sober.
 
I don't have much stage fright, but it has happened. And usually more with smaller crowds than large. And when I've analysed "why did I get scared there?". It's not because I've been looked at, that is a given. It's because I know that THEY can see what I AM looking at, and how I react and so forth, and read my emotions, that vulnerability and intimacy; the intensity of that; can at times feel a bit chaotic and worrisome. The "Oh, they can see right through me! I'm a scared little boy!"-thing. It can hit you hard! And the audience become what like a beautiful/perfect woman can be for many (me included) men; "the judging ideal"! It's like she/they can see all your faults, and she's/they're perfection in the flesh. You feel intimidated and you might feel like a fraud (What am I doing here? This is way beyond my depth! I'm ridiculous! etc. etc.) It's a trick of the mind, and a lie, which most anxiety issues are, the roaring lion isn't there, but the mind believe so, and the brain is commanding the release of massive amounts of cortisol into the system; BAM! And you freeze; the prey response. But like with the perfect woman, if you knew them, the audience isn't perfect either. It's like after you've mustered the courage to talk to this "perfect woman", which you have to do if you want to be around her, or perhaps even be in a relationship with her, you learn that she too!, has problems,shortcomings, doubts, self esteem issues etc, she's a normal, REAL person, like you and everyone else, right? So the real person is not the judging ideal you believed at first. This will either make you relieved or make you lose interest. The point is though: If you're gonna have a relationship, one that's honest, you have to sacrifice the ideal for the real person. This insight is often enough to at least take the worst sting off. I go through stuff like this in my mind. Plus also audiences are there to have a good time, that's their intent and motivation most of the time, so they are friendly and forgiving, unless 100% of them are miserable, resentful bastards! Well, if that's the case: they deserve to pay the money for the ticket and your worst performance, 'cause they wouldn't be satisfied with your best, anyway (So what's the point?). Think of it like that. I wouldn't recommend taking medication or drugs. One off acute instances is fine, but not as a strategy. But that!; everyone knows. Keeping these things in mind works most of the time for me, at least. In the cases they don't : that's when the sunglasses comes on, and the problem disappear. 'Cause now, they CAN'T SEE ME. Now, I'm "playing a role." So if they laugh at me; it's the character I'm playing, right? Not really me. A fake smile looks real when you wear sunglasses. And! they can't see what or where I'm looking, I can now observe from safety. Like a social anthropology student observing and studying the life of the crowd from the perspective of the stage. I'm writing all this DOWN!; you know? This is nothing but research, for my amateur science project I've got going, don't you know? ;)
 
Maybe learn this as a mantra:
“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

Frank Herbert, Dune
 
I'm playing my first sxsw showcase next Tuesday, and can attest to the difference in nerves between an average weekend show versus a show with a built-in crowd. So yeah, the nerves are there, but I find it doesn't really hit me until I see the crowd.

In a former life, I was a fairly decent stage actor, and had quite a few shows performing to 1K+ people in the audience. I can't place why, but I was much less nervous then than I am now.

It sounds lame, but I find I actually have to plan my stage theatrics with a given song/set. Generally, if I improvise bursts of energy, my playing suffers quite a bit, so I end up planning the more energetic parts of my performance during sections of each song that are less technically difficult. I forget who said it here on TB, but they said something along the lines of "you wouldn't go on stage and completely improvise your entire set list, so why would the visual performance be any different?" Thanks, anonymous TB poster! That actually helped my mentality and performance quite a bit.
 
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I'm going to admit, I skipped the last couple of pages so I'm not sure if anybody mention this but... the worst thing you can do if you have stage fright is to start making eye contact with the audience! I want you to Google something called "the fourth wall" Don't forget because playing live is also visual, that you are putting on a performance like an actor and would be helpful to treat it as such.
Imagine yourself a "character" you want to be on stage. Even if it is just a slightly ramped-up version of yourself or it could be something completely wild and different. Don't look at them! Trust me, you can feel the positive vibes from the crowd and that is to get the ball rolling for you. Gradually you will start to be more comfortable interacting once you feel that the vibe is positive . With experience can you "break" the so-called fourth wall.
 
I'm here to serve Music. Yes, I personify Her. Laugh if you like.

Music makes people's lives better.
When I show up to serve Music, I don't feel nervous.
When I show up to serve my ego ("hey, check me out! Wasn't that a cool riff?") I feel nervous as hell.
I try to check my ego at the door, and if I notice it popping back in, I remind myself why I'm here.
 
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The first time I saw a Rage Against the Machine way back when they opened Lollapalooza, the drummer played with his back to the audience and a mirror in front of him. I always assumed it was because of a little stage fright or not to get distracted by such a huge crowd but still be able to take cues and see the band when he needed to. Interestingly enough, at later shows he was always facing the audience. I think those were the early days of them playing in front of so many people and after a while I think he just got used to it and was able to turn around.
 

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