First fretless bass was the first bass I ever performed with.
Some backstory... had decided to pick up guitar going to college and had maybe a year or so under my belt. Went to a summer party and a friend says "Hey... you play guitar, right?". Answered with as much disqualification as possible, and his response was along the lines of "You'll be fine, you're playing bass for my band, we have a show in two weeks."
Now I didn't actually have a bass. Or an amp. Or any idea how to do anything useful beyond strumming a few open chords on an acoustic guitar. So, some favors were called in and I ended up with a Fender-ish fretless 5 string with a combo (I think SWR Workingman's 15) and two weeks to learn a bunch of post-punk math core songs.
After an incredibly patient two weeks of getting mentored while learning the songs, show day came. House party, lots of friends and acquaintances. Super chill vibe with folks cooking and hanging out as we would usually do. Nerves upon nerves upon nerves, and I managed to absentmindedly down a half dozen beers on a more or less empty stomach. Feeling ok socializing... this won't be so bad.
Show time comes. Down to the basement and plug up like it was a practice. Turn around and the world gets heavy and swimmy. I'm accidentally wasted and about to play freshly learned, complicated songs on a fretless bass in front of people with very little experience playing bass or drinking beer.
It was a disaster.
I learned a lot of things:
- Just go and do... the people in front of you want you to succeed.
- You're far more capable than you believe... honest effort today earns honest rewards tomorrow.
- You can create an intimate space where you can connect with an audience without pretense. Set expectations, be real, and put out your best effort. Your friends will still like you even if you suck at your instrument.
- If you do suck, put in the work to stop sucking. It may not be just you. The chemistry may be wrong, your songs may suck (even if well performed), or you may not be reaching the right audience. Figure it out. Study those who are successful and don't suck. Take your blinders off and remove any ego.
- The hang is important. Talent gets you through the door, but soft skills keep you in the room. Nobody wants to work with someone who is wasted or an *******.
- Don't agree to play shows on a borrowed fretless base playing post-punk math core songs with two weeks prep time and only a year(ish) guitar experience under your belt while accidentally seeing double.
- Or do. It was a really formative experience early that helped out a lot more later on.
EDIT: I have not returned to a fretless bass since that experience 25ish years ago.