Yeah, that's the thing. Too light a string doesn't impart enough energy to the top. Too heavy a string requires so much tension to reach pitch that it can't overcome the stresses in the top.A double bass is not a bass guitar and will never sound like one. If you're enrolled in conservatory I assume any errors of right-hand technique would have been noticed. As DoubleMIDI said above, the corpus of a 3/4 double bass is simply too small to pump 45 Hz. Try a Spirocore Stark on the E and hope it doesn't choke the response.
If "too light" and "too heavy" overlap, well, that probably means you've got my bass.