Very strange, what reason did he give the security guy to stop you?
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Why did you quit a band?
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Very strange, what reason did he give the security guy to stop you?
So Anyway, congrats on having the skill set to book gigs. Not everyone has it and a band without gigs isn't a band. I won't even start rehearsing unless there's some work in the pipeline.
Our BL books all our work and if he's available, the gig is booked. Then we see if everyone can make it and start subbing when necessary.
I've never been very good at booking...not in my skill set plus it seems too much like real work.
I'm lucky. I've rarely quit, and I've rarely been fired. Usually what happens is the band just breaks up.
Last time I quit -- it wasn't just me. Four piece band - me, the singer, and the guitarist all quit to form another band. We'd been together for over a decade, but there'd been two years of drama from the drummer and his g/f -- mostly the g/f. The last straw went like this:
Drummer: "I'm not playing at (Bar X) any more. It's a dive"
The rest of us: "OK fine, we'll use another drummer for those gigs"
Drummer: "If you do, then you have to use another name, because it's my band name, and I don't want it associated with that bar"
Us:
We huddled up and quit him at the first opportunity. It splintered our fan base a bit -- some of his friends resented us and others were disappointed -- but we'd had enough.
When the guitarist asked if I "could not play so funky" because I was making him look bad. 
Same guy that said I shouldn't play B notes, against his E chords.
Same guy that said I shouldn't play B notes, against his E chords.
Never quit as a bass player but did a couple of times as a guitar player. Mostly because of EGOS of some of the other members.
Tour of the Netherlands, returning to the UK. Drummer wanted to smuggle dope back in to the country. Straw that broke the camel's back.
I've never quit a band .I've always been kicked out or fired for not doing my homework.
Ok, memory slowly coming back. Had a Wrath of Khan moment about 10 years ago. The scene in the movie where Chekhov realizes he and his captain are in the Botany Bay and are trying to get out before they’re noticed by Kahn!
Was alerted by a sax player friend of a great new “progressive” band forming. He had a guitarist and drummer. I get there. Seems ok at first, then something strikes me as chillingly familiar about the guitarist. Things he said and his actions.The clincher was when his wife walked by the practice room and said something to him in a nails on chalkboard voice! At that point, I’m thinking “Scotty, emergency beam me up now”. At this time he hadn’t recognized me. I then somehow concocted an imaginary voicemail that my girlfriend was stalled out in her vehicle and bailed out, never to return. Close call. Here’s why this came to be.
Seems about 15 years prior to THIS get together, I was in rock/soul outfit where he was our replacement guitarist for a few months. His wife insisted on coming to our practices, and just being generally annoying in attitude and that voice of hers. Both those and the fact she looked like Broomhilda. She was her own hat trick. He wouldn’t take the hint that it was band only practices. We had let him go after a subsequent practice. She was there of course and opened her mouth with a few ugly comments. They were shown the door immediately.
Was alerted by a sax player friend of a great new “progressive” band forming. He had a guitarist and drummer. I get there. Seems ok at first, then something strikes me as chillingly familiar about the guitarist. Things he said and his actions.The clincher was when his wife walked by the practice room and said something to him in a nails on chalkboard voice! At that point, I’m thinking “Scotty, emergency beam me up now”. At this time he hadn’t recognized me. I then somehow concocted an imaginary voicemail that my girlfriend was stalled out in her vehicle and bailed out, never to return. Close call. Here’s why this came to be.
Seems about 15 years prior to THIS get together, I was in rock/soul outfit where he was our replacement guitarist for a few months. His wife insisted on coming to our practices, and just being generally annoying in attitude and that voice of hers. Both those and the fact she looked like Broomhilda. She was her own hat trick. He wouldn’t take the hint that it was band only practices. We had let him go after a subsequent practice. She was there of course and opened her mouth with a few ugly comments. They were shown the door immediately.
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Lol! I was being a smart aleck.I like that. Not sure what it means but I like it.
It’s actually a hockey term. Usually for accomplishing 3 successive positive actions on the ice. In the guitarist’s wife’s case, she accomplished 3 negatives.
Lol! I was being a smart aleck.
It’s actually a hockey term. Usually for accomplishing 3 successive positive actions on the ice. In the guitarist’s wife’s case, she accomplished 3 negatives.
Oh yes, I know the hockey reference - 3 goals on a game. Wasn't sure how that applied to Broomhilda.
No problem! I’ll be glad to specifyOh yes, I know the hockey reference - 3 goals on a game. Wasn't sure how that applied to Broomhilda.
Here are her negatives.
I’m just a being a joker.Her voice.
Her attitude
Her looks!
I watched one of the best bands I was ever involved with implode once the real money of royalties raised it's ugly head. Once players realized that they "may" get less because two guys in the band wrote most of the material it got weird. A producer friend of mine told me "If you guys are feeling that with no money in hand, you're done."
He was right. From that point forward I always talked about that stuff early...
He was right. From that point forward I always talked about that stuff early...
Last originals band I was in. No real expectations. They had 45 minutes. Which is enough to start. They were pretty and they had a cello. Singer might've been on drugs. We play a few gigs, make a demo, and nothing. No buzz out there. So they want to record another demo. More songs from the existing set. The guitarist (music) was already carrying the singer (lyrics) over rehearsal space. So I want to talk about royalties before I dig deeper into my pocket. We can't be all equal financing the band if we won't be equal when it comes to getting money back. At least work out something that works for everyone. Got the stock "If you don't like it, your welcome to write some songs." And I was welcome to write them but no way the guitarist would let his band play them.
Sayonara, Daniel San.
I was in a band in my 20's that was more a group of friends than a solid group of musicians. Our guitarist was a very good songwriter and rhythm guitarist, but his "leads" were slayer style note vomit. Our drummer followed us instead of setting a beat and got lost coming back from almost every fill. Our vocalist couldn't hold a note in a bucket and sang the songs slightly different every time. Great friends, but I got tired of it eventually and quit.
About 2 years later the guitarist talked me into having another go at being in a band with him. My conditions were; #1 He was not allowed to even attempt leads. Extended fills that worked with the song? Sure, but NO A minor spazing. #2 It was not going to be the previous band 2.0, we were writing all new material and we would not be going with our old drummer and vocalist.
Started out OK, we wrote some killer new tunes and landed a fantastic drummer. Guitarist held true to written "fills" instead of leads. Unfortunately the previous vocalist somehow found out about it a few months in and started showing up to practices like the job was his. Vocalist rubbed the new drummer the wrong way and he quit in VERY short order without even giving me a chance to argue for him over vocalist. The very next rehearsal I show up to our old drummer fully set up, all three guys looking at me with poopie eating grins on their faces.
I packed up my gear and left.
Still very close to guitarist and vocalist to this day, but would not care to be in a band with either.
About 2 years later the guitarist talked me into having another go at being in a band with him. My conditions were; #1 He was not allowed to even attempt leads. Extended fills that worked with the song? Sure, but NO A minor spazing. #2 It was not going to be the previous band 2.0, we were writing all new material and we would not be going with our old drummer and vocalist.
Started out OK, we wrote some killer new tunes and landed a fantastic drummer. Guitarist held true to written "fills" instead of leads. Unfortunately the previous vocalist somehow found out about it a few months in and started showing up to practices like the job was his. Vocalist rubbed the new drummer the wrong way and he quit in VERY short order without even giving me a chance to argue for him over vocalist. The very next rehearsal I show up to our old drummer fully set up, all three guys looking at me with poopie eating grins on their faces.
I packed up my gear and left.
Still very close to guitarist and vocalist to this day, but would not care to be in a band with either.
Well...I haven't read every reason, but it all boils down to;
THE 3 PARTS of THE GIG
The Tunes
The Hang
The Cash
If the HANG is great and the TUNES are OK, then the CASH is the least important...this situation motivates you to jump in a Chartreuse VW MicroBus and "go tour" with the TIP Jar!
If the TUNES are great and the CASH is OK, then the HANG is not going to drive you or band mates to homicidal rage!
If the CASH is fantastic, then you will play almost any TUNES and will develop coping survival strategies for the HANG!
BUT, when the TUNES, the HANG and the CA$H are all good, then you are in the ZONE!
THE 3 PARTS of THE GIG
The Tunes
The Hang
The Cash
If the HANG is great and the TUNES are OK, then the CASH is the least important...this situation motivates you to jump in a Chartreuse VW MicroBus and "go tour" with the TIP Jar!
If the TUNES are great and the CASH is OK, then the HANG is not going to drive you or band mates to homicidal rage!
If the CASH is fantastic, then you will play almost any TUNES and will develop coping survival strategies for the HANG!
BUT, when the TUNES, the HANG and the CA$H are all good, then you are in the ZONE!
