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17 year old curfew

#202
So far, if everybody in this thread was in a cafe, I would most want to talk to Morf. Because he sounds the most honest and in touch with what he's actually talking about. I don't mean to degrade anyone's opinion and I totally respect you all.

And I'm sorry, but Guy, please you should show some more respect for Morf. His opinion may differ but everytime he replies you seem to start off with some backhanded insult joke w/ a smiley.


My whole take is that a curfew is sheltering, not preparing. People need to be prepared for college, and anything. Scouts motto (be prepared)... oh yeah, I guess you can be an Eagle scout with never having a curfew as well. Sorry, ok I'm done.
 
#207
Edwcdc said:
I like Morf.:)
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Me too. Morf makes some very valid points, and I shall now try to replicate them -only in a more clumsy matter. That much for my English education.:scowl:

Ed, first of all, you sure sound like a great and caring father. Your kid is a lucky one.

There´s several issues to take into consideration regarding curfew. For a starter, it´s impossible for me to say anything about your son, because I don´t know him nor the people he hang out with.

I can only use the angle of my culture: In Norway we don´t even have a word for "curfew". When the kids have entered upper secondary (15-16 yrs old), it is very uncommon.

When I was 17 my father always asked me how late I would be out. If I planned to be late (02-0300) at a party, he or one of my pals parents would usually pick us up - if I did not stay the night over, that is. The important thing here, is that he knew where I was at and how I got home. And he could always reach me on cellphone.

That only works, though, if it´s cool to you that your children are exposed to partying, and you know his friends isn´t gonna turn him into a druggie or anything. In my situation, yes there were drinking and sometimes even a bit too much of it. But my friends are (including me) all very decent people and very far from "losing it". All the great fun we had at night - I´m very happy I didn´t miss that.

Oh and I´m currently 21 years old, having lived on my own for a couple of years. When I´m with my parents I still call them to say how late I will be in the evenings. Cuz I know they will worry if I not.
 
#208
haha with me growing up it was all about grades.

excellent grades - do whatever I want as long as I called and let my parents know where I was and when Id be home

good/average grades - 11 pm curfew, wasn't always allowed to do things if they sounded questionable

bad grades - had to be home by 10 barely allowed to do anything

looking back on it, it was a very smart move by my parents because by the time I had a serious girlfriend, a band with a bunch of fun guys, and a lot of friends and parties to go to, I didnt want to miss out on any of it so I worked hard to keep my good grades!
 
#209
my GF whos 17, week days its 10 weekends 11, or depending on what we are doing it can be later. Like all night bowling can go to like 2 AM. but one of her parents always wait up for her, really sucks but their light sleepers and the door will wake them up. so yeah it sucks, but like others have said most of the things that happen after 11 usually end up in no good at that age.
 
#210
I'd say whatever you make it (be it 11 or 12) do the same for all your kids if you have more than one.

I was the oldest and I had a curfew of 11 until I turned 18 and then it was extended to 12. I was an extremely straight kid, didn't even party in high school. The worst thing I ever did was TP the football players' houses at homecoming. I got in trouble if I was one minute late.

My younger brother had a curfew of 12, and sometimes even came home at 1. He got busted for underage drinking, had been smoking pot. When he went away to college he flunked out from too much partying.

When I came home from college at age 23 (after having graduated with honors in 4 years) my parents gave me a curfew of 12. It assured that I would move out of their house very quickly.

My brother is 28. He still lives at home. He doesn't have any sort of curfew. His girlfriend stays overnight often. My mother does his laundry and cooks him dinner.

I don't think I was straight-laced because of my curfew. I think it was just my personality. But my brother was brought up lax and he still lives at home. You think I should have been rewarded for never getting in trouble but I wasn't.

So it's not the curfew time, but do be careful that you don't end up "rewarding" bad behavior.
 
#211
That depends on how much you trust him. My parents trust me a lot, so I don't really have a curfew except for my mom always stays up when I'm out so she always wants me back before 1 AM, unless I'm staying the night at whoever else's house. I don't need a ride from anyone either since I've got a full license which doesn't have a curfew (I got it just in time to avoid the provisional license which my state just instituted a little over a year ago)


But then again most of my late night activities include either dungeons and dragons, or some other RPG (non-computer type, as in dice rolling). Either that or I spend the night at a bandmate's house and we're all there practicing and playing PS2.
 
#216
Oh yeah... the poster who's parents waited up reminded me about this. THis is what my parents did to my sister as she had a bit of a stricter curfew than I did. Kept an alarm somewhere that she can turn off on her way into the house that will wake you up if she's not home. THat way you get your sleep, and can tell if your kid came home. Not foolproof (younger brothers can be bribed, and they can always go back out once they turn it off) but it tended to help.
 

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