I probably didn't make it clear, sorry. The lipstick pickups (with no P pickup at all: volume at zero or no cable in the P output jack) sound great together w/ no phase issue. There's only the expected volume drop when you go from soloing one pickup to centering the balance control= no biggie and the EMG ABC minimizes it.
After talking again with Carl, I confirmed 100% that the bridge pickup is out of phase with the P pickup. So, when the P is being used in any combination with the bridge lipstick, the result is not great. Carl knew this and tried reversing the wires on the pickups to leave the neck L out of phase, and then the bridge L out of phase. He settled on the best sounding outcome.
I found a switch locally and will be looking at options for placement later.