It's nice of your singer that he apologized and said he should have asked you first. I would do the same, I don't lend or borrow any gear anymore. Learned it the hard way, no hard feelings.
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A stranger asked to use my gear...
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...or check in and ask permission first.
Cool story, you handled it perfectly from my perspective. What a douchebag, "I'm a Nashville pro, gimme your bass." And your guitar player had to think about it, but he finally came to the right conclusion.
Speak for yourself. For a lot of us, our instrument is a serious investment and represents a helluva lot more than wood and metal.
Actually, the story about what my bass is can start and end right here: My bass is mine to decide what happens to it. Anyone who tries to imply anything beyond that is an arrogant ass and can take a flying leap. I pity the fool who tries to guilt me into loaning my gear if they don't ask nice or I'm not in the mood.
That was pretty disrespectful IMO. "You might be a pro in Nashville, but even Dave Hungate knows how to say 'please'."
Good job and I agree with almost everything said except if you go somewhere and expect to play you should tote your own bass.....that's a bit arrogant and pretentious to assume or expect to sit in anywhere and come in with instrument in hand for just such an occasion. I know a guy locally who does that and he has even less of a chance getting asked to come up because of it.
On everything else...well done. Dude didn't show much decorum for a "Nashville" pro....
On everything else...well done. Dude didn't show much decorum for a "Nashville" pro....
This would have never happened in my band. It would have been discussed first. Even if I didn't know the person, if my guitarist is for it that's good enough for me. He is a total pro and would only allow the same to sit in. Having said that, I'm not sure it's ever happened that it was a bass player that wanted to sit in.
What exact gear do you play that's so golden?
If its that fantastic maybe it belongs at home
If its that fantastic maybe it belongs at home
I have the exact same reaction when people want to play my instruments. In fact, someone here on TB once said they followed up to a request to "let me play your bass" with a "let me play with your wife" comment. I think that makes the point pretty clear.
Cheers to you to not giving in!
Cheers to you to not giving in!
It has nothing to do with being fantastic gear, I don't share my wife, my gear, my guns or my car. If you need food and clothes, no problem.
Good on you Tex. I would have done the same thing (I don't lend my gear either). A total strangers lack of gear certainly isn't my problem nor responsibility. I don't care what the circumstances are. The attitude of having the god given right to borrow anyones equipment just boggles the mind. And keep off my lawn!
(sorry, I have a strong opinion about this 
peace.)
I don't think that's the issue here.
My retort to that "pro in Nashville" business would have been"oh, yeah? Which corner you work?" NGTFOH
Where does your bass teacher gig? I want to try the Fodera. (But I will ask him nicely, offer to wipe it off afterwards, and say "Thank you!")
if i was in a position (guest) who might steal someone else's thunder (or not), i'd be sporting my own instrument. i would never assume to play someone else's axe.
i only play fretless, however, so: no one ever asks to sit in. when others ask me to sit in (and i don't have one of my fretlesses) i politely demur.
but: i wouldn't hesitate to decline/avoid/schmice the scene where somebody that i don't know (or approve) uses my instrument. (having said that: i really don't care too much. if it's player's crowd: we could all have fun!)
