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A "Very Special Episode" Thread

ggvicviper

The Barky One
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Jul 16, 2011
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This weekend was my dad's 60th birthday. He was a musician for all his life having a B.S. in Music Composition. He started in the early 60's as a guitarist and mandolin player, and also picked up trombone and eventually bass guitar as an adult. While he wasn't quite a teacher to me (I largely picked up the instrument on my own), I started out using his modified Fender Jazz that he got cheap in 1980. He also taught me much about music theory, and as I got older, I would enjoy playing music with him, and sometimes other family or friends at reunions and whatnot. He even bought me my first instruments.

My dad had FOUR strokes due to some sort of heart condition that he had fixed in 2009 if I recall correctly. However, the damage was done. He developed trigger finger on his fretting hand's ring finger, and lost some of the feeling in his tips. He effectively stopped playing music completely in maybe 2007 or 2008.

Anyway, he had a little party at his house, and some cousins from out of town came. One of them had a guitar. I didn't know anyone was brining anything, and I couldn't go back to my place to get a bass. I picked up an acoustic guitar and played some stuff from the 60's and 70's with the cousin. My father watched us play, but it was really the first time he couldn't participate - and it looked like he really wanted to as well. He just looked sad. I felt really bad. It's difficult enough, because anytime I try to offer a suggestion or solution, he just says "I can't do it" and dismisses it. He also spends all of his time in front of the computer and barely leaves the house these days. He only comes out to see me and my fiancee, or some other mandatory life stuff.

So I started thinking up some ideas the next morning, because I was really sick of him always saying he can't play because of this and that. It's a waste of talent, and he still has usable fingers. He also has a daughter (my half-sister) who is learning flute, and she might enjoy playing with her dad. I tried playing a few instruments with just the index and middle fingers, and started to develop a technique during that morning. I've heard it's the "Django" technique, because his ring and pink were crippled in a fire. I was able to play some bass lines on a Les Paul guitar easily. I took a little time, but I could play it on one of my P Basses. However, I don't think he'd be able to play a P Bass at this point.

Then it hit me: get him a Fender VI and teach him the two finger technique.

He can play something with his two fingers, and he can use a pick or work with his hook finger to pluck. Whatever makes him comfortable. He doesn't need to be a virtuoso or anything, he just should keep playing something that he can. Most of his experience has been on fretted chordal instruments, so why not give him something easier that can let him participate? Plus it's from his son, and I never got a chance to repay him so to speak.

The plan: I found the Squier VI on Sweetwater, and since I know he dislikes "colored" guitars, I got him the one in sunburst. It will be delivered Wednesday, and I will put some La Bella VI Flats on it, and set it up to make it SUPER easy to play since his fingertips are a little numb. I picked up VI rounds for it, in case the flats aren't his taste. I also got him a nice Roland Micro Cube Bass amp so he can take it wherever he wants. He can even play backyard by the pool and enjoy the weather. He'll also have a giant load of tonal options with the three pickups and strangle switch, so he can easily find a tone he likes.

I hope this works, and also that it will make him happy (and prolific again). Wish me luck!
 
Awesome. Just awesome.

When I have kids I hope they're as kind and thoughtful as you.

:thumbsup:

Good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sorry to hear about his problems but I hope your idea works out.
A Squire VI with flatwounds and a Roland Micro Cube sounds like a good plan.

Thanks guys! I'm actually really excited about making the setup and doing the work. It's almost like GAS, but for someone else.

By the way, I'm 29 turning 30 in November, and my little half-sis is 11 going on 12 in December. How's THAT for an age difference? My dad is still an active parent, so to speak.
 
Trigger finger is not permanent. There is a small surgical procedure which cuts the sheath that the inflamed tendon goes through. I had four done, two on each hand and I am completely free from any trigger finger problems now. Your dad should look into this. It is simple day surgery and with one finger, the procedure should take about an hour if that. The recovery would take a couple months and his finger will be good as new. :):cool::bassist:
 
Good for you. I hope he takes to your plan.

Regarding trigger finger, I had a mild case where there was a possible chance for surgery. My doc recommended a cortisone shot first. I tried the shot and it mostly cleared up the trigger finger. May be worth trying first.
 
Trigger finger is not permanent. There is a small surgical procedure which cuts the sheath that the inflamed tendon goes through. I had four done, two on each hand and I am completely free from any trigger finger problems now. Your dad should look into this. It is simple day surgery and with one finger, the procedure should take about an hour if that. The recovery would take a couple months and his finger will be good as new. :):cool::bassist:

Good for you. I hope he takes to your plan.

Regarding trigger finger, I had a mild case where there was a possible chance for surgery. My doc recommended a cortisone shot first. I tried the shot and it mostly cleared up the trigger finger. May be worth trying first.

See, that's the thing that gets me. There ARE solutions to this. I didn't know about the cortizone shot, but I was sure that it could be corrected with surgery. There are other treatments as well - there's a little device that my dad could've ordered that would help. http://omronainrelief.com

My friend who also is fighting trigger finger says that soaking your hand in hot water helps too.

My dad is very stubborn and opinionated, though. Always has been. It's difficult getting him to try new things, even if it will help himself. Since he's a bit reclusive these days and just spends all his time on the computer (and I mean that quite literally), he doesn't see things beyond the necessity of life - or at least he thinks he doesn't. Eating, sleeping, and earning money. Nothing extracurricular or stimulating outside of work anymore, be it music, movies, cars, or anything he used to take interest in. The only saving grace is that he bought a new car recently, but he doesn't give himself much reason to drive it. He doesn't even enjoy food much anymore - he only eats for nourishment. He's not enjoying much of life. He was never like this raising me, but he just got worse after his strokes. He also isn't exactly what I would call "happily married" to his current wife, and he's given up a lot of power in raising my sister to his wife, which is why I put "active parent" in quotes. Pretty rough situation, and that's also why I want him to play a bit more. It can only help him.

Plus, he never really owned good electric instruments. His only electric guitars were early 60's Harmony USA models, and they were both pure trash. One had the headstock snapped and non-functional electronics, the other had to be modified with new pickups because the old ones shorted out very quickly. His only bass wasn't very good either - I like Fender basses, so please don't hate, but that modded J is pretty bad. It's a 1976 (smack during the CBS mediocre period), and the neck gives a lot of issues staying in the pocket, and the modded electrics were terrible at best (we still haven't gotten in quite to the right point, either). I know firsthand that these new Squiers are dynamite, and he's never had something like this, so I hope he'll dial down the stubborn and just listen to reason.

Anyway, attached are some pics of the Squier VI that Sweetwater sent me:

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Before I had the surgery, I tried the cortisone shots. They gave temporary relief and with in 6-9 months I was right back to square one. And continued use of cortisone is dangerous. That is why I finally had the surgery. All four at one shot. I don't regret it one bit. This was 10 years ago and my fingers are still fine. Yes I was reluctant to have any kind of surgery but I am glad I did this and highly recommend it for anyone suffering from trigger finger. I wish your dad well and hope he recovers. :):cool::bassist:
 
I think what you are doing is awesome.. However it sounds like your dad is depressed. Depresion is a sickness that can be trigered by other things like the strokes.
Please do not get frustrated or disapointed if your father does not welcome the gift at first, as it might take some time for him to understand what you are doing for him. Just keep trying without being pushy and once he gets what you are trying to do, he will be taking the first step to being more happy with himself and start enjoying life again.
I speak from experience, as I have suffered from depresion.People like you are what gets one through.
 
I think what you are doing is awesome.. However it sounds like your dad is depressed. Depresion is a sickness that can be trigered by other things like the strokes.
Please do not get frustrated or disapointed if your father does not welcome the gift at first, as it might take some time for him to understand what you are doing for him. Just keep trying without being pushy and once he gets what you are trying to do, he will be taking the first step to being more happy with himself and start enjoying life again.
I speak from experience, as I have suffered from depresion.People like you are what gets one through.

Wouldn't surprise me one bit if he was diagnosed with clinical depression. However, he doesn't believe in Psychiatric sciences or medicine - and when you don't want to see that you're not well, and won't get help, that makes it all the more difficult. He's a very stubborn man. I appreciate the input, and I try to be patient with his situation. It can get frustrating though.
 
Came in safe & sound thanks to Sweetwater!

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The bass is really nice, and I was able to cop some sweet tones out of it so far. Needs a setup though, particularly on the E string. I was using two fingers fretting almost exclusively the entire time I was playing it, just to see if I could really pull off that technique. Turns out, I was able to play some killer stuff! If my dad can see that, there's a good chance he will at least pick it up and try it.

Amp works nicely too. While it's not my portaflex, it's great for a tiny 4 watter with some bottom. I love these amps.

I still need to restring (using D'Addarios) and set up the VI, but were most of the way there. Wish me luck this weekend, I'm gonna try to give it to him and sell him on it.
 
Hey, a little update. The D'Addario strings, like the stock Fender strings, sound pretty bad. The E string tends to buzz on every fret, even when the truss is given some relief and the action is raised - which is defeating the point of the bass. I ordered some La Bella flats from Elderly the other day, and they're out for delivery. I'll give an update, and hopefully they will play much better and will set up more nicely.
 
So the plan didn't work. I let my dad play with it for a little bit, and he started saying how now ALL his fingers were shot, he couldn't remember how to play things and his playing days were over. I didn't even want to keep it. He said he couldn't even do the two finger technique I showed him I could do. Just pretty much dismissed. Very disappointing. I hope this never happens to me when I get older, as I want to play music for as long as I'm consciously able to.

So now I have a Squier VI and an additional Roland Micro Cube Bass Amp - neither of which I really want or need. Gotta figure out something to do with them.