Joker, this has me thinking as I have noticed this in another practice room.....but could it be the room I am practicing. There are NO acoustics, they have padding all over the walls, and its a really small room. In another room like this I used to practice in, I found that I really had to crank my amp to hear myself. However, live on a gig - different story. I always have enough headroom for a gig. Maybe its the room?????
geez, it could be a variety of crap.
might also just be the simple fact that a small room means you're alot closer to the other amps and the drummer. and heck, if the amps and whatnot are all pointed at one another, that'd spell trouble. while on the other hand, with everybody onstage, inline, and more spread apart, it'd make it alot easier to hear yourself.

