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Am I wrong
- Thread starter iriegnome
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It's words on a screen. Hard to tell from just that. Are they close? Do they speak a lot? Seems like more details are needed. Kinda difficult to judge something like that anonymously online, not knowing the people involved or the relationships.
I would be on guard but not jump to conclusions. Like you say, he's 1700 miles away and you're not close - it's possible that he meant something inappropriate by it, but it's also possible that's just the way he talks. But it could be a danger sign.
If that's not the way you normally know him to speak, then I could see cause a for suspicion. Unless he just has a normally demonstrative personality. You don't wanna jump the gun or do anything rash, but be aware.
As the father of a 14-year-old daughter, I monitor her FB page regularly. If a comment like this was made by someone in her age group, I'd think very little of it. A comment from a 54-year-old man would get my attention in a hurry and red flags would be flying high. The fact that he has been blocked on FB and still is attempting to contact your daughter is something that would put me on high alert. I suggest having a conversation with your daughter and find out more about the relationship. Nothing is more important than protecting your child.
Overreacting as most parents do in regards to their kid.
Still, if you're not close, I don't see why she should have him on her account to begin with.
A huge amount of FB-related problems can be avoided if people only have people they are very good friends with or close family members as "friends."
Still, if you're not close, I don't see why she should have him on her account to begin with.
A huge amount of FB-related problems can be avoided if people only have people they are very good friends with or close family members as "friends."
I don't trust him. Don't let him talk to your kids. Your the parent. Protect your kids at all cost.
Ha, I have a little more than that myself, but I try to keep it limited to people who I know or who I can potentially network with. I'm friends with a LOT of musicians around the country/world.
As to the OP, that does seem pretty strange. Then again, I hug my 12 year old nephew and tell him I love him every time I see him (I'm about to be 23). That could probably be seen as weird to some people, but that's just how my family operates. As a few people have said, more details could definitely help us see the full picture.
My Dad radar sounding a possible threat. I would be on high alert. Is there a way to look at other communications he has had with your daughter? A 52 year old man has no business messaging a 14 year old female other than Happy Birthday or Congratulations. What gets my alarm bell going off is that you blocked him, which should indicate to him that either your daughter or you are uncomfortable with the relationship, and he try's to find alternate means to contact her BEHIND YOUR BACK! What a real man would do is once he was blocked he should call YOU, and explain what he was trying to say, apologies for any appearance of improper intent, ask you to apologize to your daughter for him and agree that it is best any message he has for her is passed through you.
I'm with you on this one. Based on what you've said about the situation, something seems not quite right. Being safe is the wise choice.
I certainly wouldn't damn him based on a phrase like that. I wouldn't use those words, but he may just be a bit socially awkward, or maybe just a bit over the top. There's nothing sinister in what he wrote at all; not in my opinion.
I actually don't have that many. I used to but I cut it way back. It has ballooned again mainly because as you said networking with other musicians.
It's not so much the language that bothers me as it's him trying to get in contact with the girl any way he can. That seems a bit queer to me.
It sounded to me like you were leaving out a lot of the history based on your op. The good thing is he's far away from where you are. Go with your gut, it's a pretty reliable indicator. Just don't do anything too extreme without sufficient cause and information.
The post is one piece of a puzzle - but the phone calls are another, and together they would make me alarmed.
Why not call him and find out what's going on? You can always tell him to lay off.
Why not call him and find out what's going on? You can always tell him to lay off.
