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Asking her father

#141
@Bloodhammer- I can't even count the number of guys I've heard say "I'm never going to get married", and then ended up doing exactly that.

Never say never. There's one out there somewhere that will break you, you just haven't crossed paths with her yet. :D


Also how in the hell did your name end up as a link? Am I tweeting? I've never done that.

#cray
 
#142
DerHoggz said:
What if you can parlay that into free weed though?
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How would I do that? He's already got all the weed and my girl. Why would he give me any herb to knock boots with her when he's already been doing that without me in the equation?

edpal said:
I totally agree bro - the asking for permission OR asking for blessing is an optional. Some, self included to a point, got a little butt-hurt for a variety of reasons. Some did the ask-dad, others have daughters and would like one chance to give their final answer.
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I'm not big on tradition, but if I was going to ask a woman from a very traditional family to marry me and asking the father was the way it was expected to go down in that family, I'd do it. I'd introduce myself as Michael Corleone from America and have my bodyguards/translators tell him that I wished to see his daughter. I haven't ever dated a woman that would want me to do that though. My last gf would have been insulted, so in that case I wouldn't have asked her dad because respect can work either way in this scenario. Respect him and piss her off, or respect her and piss of someone on TBOT? What to do? Of course I wouldn't have asked her to marry me in the first place because that bitch be crazy. Her dad liked me, though.
 
#143
will33 said:
@Bloodhammer- I can't even count the number of guys I've heard say "I'm never going to get married", and then ended up doing exactly that.

Never say never. There's one out there somewhere that will break you, you just haven't crossed paths with her yet. :D
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Stop trying to jinx me with that "you'll change your mind" juju! I swear married people have this sadistic desire to see others wind up like them and use their married-people-voodoo to curse them to eternal matrimony! Now pull the pins out of the doll before I get Yog Sothoth over here!
 
#145
Bloodhammer said:
Stop trying to jinx me with that "you'll change your mind" juju! I swear married people have this sadistic desire to see others wind up like them and use their married-people-voodoo to curse them to eternal matrimony! Now pull the pins out of the doll before I get Yog Sothoth over here!
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I'm not married, no juju.

I'm also not one of those who said I never would get married either.

You're jinxing yourself. It's your own juju, your own pin, in your own doll. ;)
 
#148
will33 said:
I'm not married, no juju.

I'm also not one of those who said I never would get married either.

You're jinxing yourself. It's your own juju, your own pin, in your own doll. ;)
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No way. I've already met the woman who broke me and she had the decency to leave me before I could marry her. "The one" got away and I couldn't be happier now that my heart has healed up and I'm able to look at that long-ago situation with clarity. If marrying "the one" would have ended in divorce, then none of the strays I've since picked up or will pick up could ever even come close to qualifying as a wife. I passed the test and am forever free of the marriage bug, the way I see it. It's like chicken pox, only I got just the fever, but not the lesions.
 
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#149
Bloodhammer said:
I'm not big on tradition, but if I was going to ask a woman from a very traditional family to marry me and asking the father was the way it was expected to go down in that family, I'd do it. I'd introduce myself as Michael Corleone from America and have my bodyguards/translators tell him that I wished to see his daughter. I haven't ever dated a woman that would want me to do that though. My last gf would have been insulted, so in that case I wouldn't have asked her dad because respect can work either way in this scenario. Respect him and piss her off, or respect her and piss of someone on TBOT? What to do? Of course I wouldn't have asked her to marry me in the first place because that bitch be crazy. Her dad liked me, though.
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YOu have a good grasp on this issue imo - it's not about what YOU want, it's about other people's expectations. If was what was expected you'd do it but you find it far-fetched you'd be in that position. I'm not dismissing the idea of Dad's who would think it was weird you would ask. I'm hoping you ain't marrying any of us so that is a moot point. :)
 
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Bloodhammer said:
If marrying "the one" would have ended in divorce, then none of the strays I've since picked up or will pick up could ever even come close to qualifying as a wife. I passed the test and am forever free of the marriage bug, the way I see it. It's like chicken pox, only I got just the fever, but not the lesions.
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Bah, you just had the pseudo-illness: you caught cow-pox, which confers some protection from small-pox. You didn't have the tro0 kvlt thang. No marriage anti-bodies in your system, just anti-engagement. That is like mono - it will raise it's ugly head in a time of systemic weakness.
 
#153
will33 said:
If you're going to marry her, you're going to marry her. Would it just crush you to talk to her Dad?

If you can't handle that, you're really not marriage material.
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True - Dad is optimally her biggest fan, ready to kick the ass of anyone who would deal her wrong. It's really better to be inside the family circle of trust than outside the family circle of trust.
 
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edpal said:
True - Dad is optimally her biggest fan, ready to kick the ass of anyone who would deal her wrong. It's really better to be inside the family circle of trust than outside the family circle of trust.
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One of my brother's ex-girlfriends was psychologically pushed away from him because of her parents' fondness for him. Her dad even hired him for some carpentry jobs. Apparently being tight with the family isn't always a good policy - at least in that case it wasn't. It was sort of like that episode of South Park when the town's parents got their kids to drop the Pokemon fad by embracing it themselves.
 
#158
I didn't ask my ex-wife's father. In retrospect I should have because maybe he would have said no and saved me the hassle :)

If my girlfriend and I ever get married I wouldn't ask her father. I can't stand the guy and neither can she. In fact we don't even plan on inviting him to the wedding if we can help it.
 
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If you don't ask the father there's a good chance the mother will then be pissed at you.

And you don't want your wife's mother pissed off at you.....at least not to start with...it's going to come sooner than you think anyway...

But it's nice to at least get past the wedding reception.......
 
#160
Jim Campbell said:
now that i think about it,maybe talking to the old man might be a good idea.....especially regarding any return policy or warranty....
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:D Good point! During our wedding ceremony, the preacher referred to me several times as "Jim" (instead of "Jeff"). Even after 40+ years of marriage, I still threaten my wife that I could probably still get this sucker annulled because of the preacher's faux pas... ;)
 

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