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Asking the father

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Mr L

Jul 22, 2012
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Vancouver BC
#1
So at this moment I'm psyching myself up to call the girl I've been taking a liking to's father to ask for permission to date her (he is crazy protective, run you off the porch with a shotgun kind of deal)

Wondering what your guys experience with this is? Ever had to ask for permission to date a girl from a protective dad? How did it go?

The phones sitting beside me... Just need the balls to dial.
 
#2
Don't phone. Go there in person and ask him. Look him in eye, shake his hand and state your business. He will respect this more than a phone call. Of course if you can't even approach the house without the shotgun coming out then you may need to change plans.
 
#3
Bert Slide said:
Don't phone. Go there in person and ask him. Look him in eye, shake his hand and state your business. He will respect this more than a phone call. Of course if you can't even approach the house without the shotgun coming out then you may need to change plans.
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Yes!

Be confident, and remind yourself why you are doing this. You have the right intentions, and you are the right man.

If any of that is NOT true, don't pursue this.
 
#4
Yeah I would love to ask him in person but he is a pilot and home very little, tonight is the only day he's going to be home for the next 2 weeks. So it's a now or never situation.

As for my intentions I believe they are sound, I'm not in it for "fun" or for gain I am a very respecting person.

On the bright side he does know me from my church although I don't know what he thinks of the "blonde bassist who goes crazy every song"
 
#11
Wow that sounds archaic but if he's calling the shots then it sounds like the right move. As some of the above posters said, do it in person. Look and smell nice but don't sell it too hard. Ideally, you won't have to sell anything at all and you could just be yourself. If you initiate or accept a handshake don't give him a limp fish. Show him that mean business.
 
#16
Asking dad to marry his daughter? Sure... And I plan to do it myself.

Asking permission to date? Yeah no.... That's just weird. You start dating you meet the parents....unless your like 12 or something.

But to each their own I guess...
 
#17
Well I just got back. Drove over there and talked to him. He certainly is a lot nicer than what I've heard about him.

I got my button up shirt on and drove my dads truck instead of my beater.

Shook his hand, give him my little speech. His response "I like you L, I am going to give you 1 chance. If I hear anything iffy of any sorts or I find out something I don't like. I will beat your a$$ so hard you won't remember your own name." then he smiled and shut the door.

I think that went well?
 

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