I sing lead and do backups, so I can't relate, but I do have a suggestion that I may catch a lot of grief for. Invest in a vocal harmonizer w/pitch correction. Yes, I said it......flame on!!
OK - let me start by saying, "whatever gets you through the gig is OK with me"
That said, I am a huge opponent of using technology in place of things you can (and should) be able to to handle without it. Implementing a pitch-correction device will diminish your own ability to sing and while it may get you through some short-term, immediate need situations, in the long run you'll be no better off.
But again - whatever gets you through the gig. If you don't want to become self-sufficient with regard to your own singing abilities, go for it.
mixtapelove said:I'm in an 80s band right now, so I pretty much have to contribute strong backups at the very least. I don't have a particularly good voice at all. I can sing in tune, but I have a squeaky, nasal kind of speaking voice that I am not crazy about, especially on tape.
There are a LOT of "great" backup singers who have comparably "terrible" voices. Fact is, "non-traditional singing voices" can actually make backup vocals sound quite distinctive (in both a good and bad way) - but taking the good way to heart, it can be the difference between your group sounding like a generic group of OK singers and a really interesting group with really intriguing backups.
Sonny Bono was part of Phil Spectors "wall of sound" IIRC - and was called, "The Frog" because of his "less than great sounding" singing voice. But it became a staple of the backup sound in the music that Spector produced.
In my experience, I've played with a friend who has an excellent singing voice - much more in control and "nice sounding" than my own - but there have been many, many songs where my backups actually sounded better/more correct than his because of my "unusual" (I call it 'novelty') voice. While he hit all the right notes and filled the air with his pristine, pitch-perfect vocalizations, there was something about that perfection that worked against the overall flavor and texture of the backups.
So - having a 'non-traditional' singing voice may keep you from singing a lot of leads - but it could make you very valuable when it comes to creating memorable backups.