I joined a country rock (with some classic thrown in) band in the spring of this year. I worked my ass off to learn the tunes with about 90% of them requiring my harmony voicing. A lot of work. I was welcomed to the band as a fully participating member. I have put in several suggestions for songs and a re-evaluation of their set list. I am realizing now I am nothing but a sideman. On Sept. 21 we played an outdoor event on the Philadelphia waterfront called "sippin on the river". An upscale cosmopolitan crowd. We were requested several times to do Brown Eyed Girl and Margaritaville. These are standards in my book.....They really didn't want to hear Helpless or Born on the Bayou or Down by the River or Simple Man etc. which I can't seem to get purged from the songlist. Well we didn't do the requests and to be honest I was pretty ****ing embarrassed. Not only that but I was given a pretty condescending lecture on the intricacies of setlist construction by the singer. What horsepoopie...I have been around and played all over the world. I'll tell you, I was hot, and the more I thought about it the worse it got. I called the former bass man and he told me get used to it. They haven't changed or evolved in the last 6 years. What the hell have I gotten myself into? Anyone relate????