Band members with egos, tempers.

[ra0ulduke]

My thoughts here revolve more around personal responsibility. If an escalation like the one described occurs, it marks the end of a development during which opportunities for resolution were missed. I've been playing in bands for decades and wouldn't even consider playing with people who have problematic personalities. You often notice these things quite early on. Because my own mental health is important to me, I don't expose myself to such unhealthy dynamics. Therefore, it would never even get to the point where someone could criticize or even yell at me on stage.

 

[Eilif]

Late to the party, but public shaming onstage would be an immediate "I'm done". I might well walk offstage right there.

I'm open to notes, and even a private reprimand after the gig if for some reason I'm not living up to my responsibilities, but public shaming is unprofessional and uncalled for.

Unless of course the money is REALLY good. Then I might just take the verbal abuse for a check.

 

[Jay Corwin]

I play in a cover band where I am not the leader, but am most experienced member, "senior college" if you will, and treated like one.
I have said this hundred times to everyone: there are mistakes that come from trying out something new or loosing focus, and they are completely fine IN ANY SIZE of venue or gig. My tolerance for that kind of mistakes is high, and I applaud anyone trying something out and being creative. Also playing a long gig, you are bound to miss a change here or there.
OTOH, there are mistakes that come from lack of preparation in knowing material or having your equipment not ready for gig (usually repeatedly), or mistakes for simply not caring about the gig. My tolerance is minimal, and members have lost their place in the band more than once because of this.
In the end, this all needs to be put in context: for local bar gig it's ok to be laid back, but for 8.000 festival headliner you need to bring your A game.
And just to sum up, no matter where your story fits in this, OP, it's not ok to discuss this on the stage at the time of the gig, let alone yell at anyone.

+ million

 

[pepj]

The standard here on the 'circuit' is variable imv, but the venues have their own criteria and live or die by it. The fact that many of these places put on solo's and duo's at various times gives you an idea of how they measure that. Thats on them.

However, if a band is considered weak in parts by their contempories, even if they actually care, those bands do not often address these or may even know they exist.
So personel changes are only really forced if the person becomes unreliable. Not if their playing is not great though.
Hence you get a 3 or 4 tier band circuit. The difference is only likely $300 max per band in fees though.