Thanks all! This has been very helpful!!
Went out to a local music store within driving last night (we live fairly rural so not a lot of options). Tried out what they had but no SR that I saw. Towards the end when I was talking with one of the store employees my husband handed me an SR805 he found in the back upper level of the store. I wasn't even paying attention to what he gave me since I was talking things through with this employee, didn't think they had what I was looking for, and was pretty much ready to leave the store and call it a night...with how good it felt right off the top, I assumed I was playing a 4 string until I looked down. Felt really comfortable and fast like you mention. Out of my price range, for the 805 but definitely going to look into the 505. @Inara What was your experience like with buying used off of GC? I think that may be my only option. I can't find any 505's local right now, but we have a GC close enough to not be a horrible drive and I could do ship to store. Are there any differences in the various ages of the 505's that I should consider as I look for one in the online used section? The pictures always seem so crappy it's hard to tell what you are looking at sometimes. And I'm pretty sure one of the stores has a 405 listed as a 505....the pick-ups and knobs are all different, etc. Doesn't make me feel real secure, but I don't know that there are any other great options out there. Thoughts?
I thought about this too as I remembered that first bass I played back in highschool was a fender. I tried a Fender MIM last night but it just didn't work well for me. I think it was how big the body was that perhaps made it hang different on my shoulder or something, but the neck felt short for me and my wrist seemed to be tweaked in a weird position no matter how I adjusted the strap. Maybe also a matter of the neck being thicker... I actually like the sound I got out of it and it seemed like a solid bass, but it just wasn't comfortable. I'm sure there are perhaps better options for me than the MIM but what I tried last night didn't seem to fit me well.
I thought about tuning down or trying the hipshot de-tuner as well, but the ease of playing certain songs and having the extra room to work is quickly turning into my main motivator. I have a few songs I am working on that were written for a 5 and trying to work out the modifications was really frustrating me with the 4 string. The lines just felt awkward and did not fit with what I naturally wanted to play. I could "make it work" but I was never happy or comfortable with that part of the progression. I threw my headphones on for 5 minutes in the store, with the first 5 string I'd ever held, and it's like I've been playing that same song for years. It was just so intuitive and clean to play it on the five given the chord structure of the song. We don't have a ton of songs like that, but we are doing enough of them and I could see the band continuing to add more in the future. I realize that the average crowd won't know the difference or care if I'm playing high vs low or the bass line isn't quite how I want it.... but as a mother of 4 youngish children who is still working through a learning curve and doesn't have multiple hours a day to practice, the ease that 5 string gave me was pretty appealing. Definitely felt worth-it in the moment