Benefit for fired band member?

[Winslow]

Please don’t tell anyone! If this got out on the internet, my street cred would be nil.

In that case, you should wear a disguise...
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[Bodeanly]

In that case, you should wear a disguise...
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I wish I'd thought of that before making something like this:

 

[Winslow]

I wish I'd thought of that before making something like this:

That's even better! That way you'll get a nice "woodsy" tone!

 

[Fredrik E. Nilsen]

He lost everything in a fire.

It is my understanding that he did not take being fired very well.

Understandable.

 

[Spidey2112]

Pets.

Sucks.

 

[gln1955]

It would only be awkward if the former band member absolutely did not want you there.

Who arranged this? Your band or some of his friends or family?

 

[Bodeanly]

Understandable.

I see what you did there.

Sucks.

Indeed. I would die for my pups.

It would only be awkward if the former band member absolutely did not want you there.

Who arranged this? Your band or some of his friends or family?

No clue. I just go where I'm told. I will ask.

 

[Winslow]

Understandable.

Quality work right there.

 

[Wesley R]

If it was me, I would do it and be happy that someone who has a tough row to hoe may benefit from my efforts. I hope it goes well.

 

[Bodeanly]

If it was me, I would do it and be happy that someone who has a tough row to hoe may benefit from my efforts. I hope it goes well.

It's cool that we can argue about tort and class d vs tubes all day, but when it comes down to it, you're all reasonably kickass human beings.

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I still hate tort tho.

 

[higain617]

It sounds like you’re planning to do it, but I think it’s worth overlooking petty band BS (on either side) to help someone out.

 

[Bodeanly]

It sounds like you’re planning to do it, but I think it’s worth overlooking petty band BS (on either side) to help someone out.

He was already out of the band when I met him. To me, he is just a dude in need right now. Hell yes, I'm doing it. I'm not worried about me though.

 

[higain617]

He was already out of the band when I met him. To me, he is just a dude in need right now. Hell yes, I'm doing it. I'm not worried about me though.

That puts you in a slightly awkward situation, but hopefully the other folks will be cool.

 

[cattrax]

I agree with @1st Bass. Help out a fellow musician in their tragedy. Your good nature should be unaffected by anyone else's behavior or circumstances. Be good, do good.

This.

 

[Bullitt5135]

I was asked to do this a few years back. Ex-drummer quit (or got fired, depending on who you ask), then reached out a couple years later when his wife was being treated for cancer. My feeling was, "sure, why not?" I was told we'd be the headliner of sorts, and other friends/musicians might sit in here and there. But he kept adding people to the lineup, jerking us around and moving our time slot, asking us to bring the PA and run sound, and generally treated us like he was doing us a favor. We ultimately backed out and just our singer showed up as one of the sit-ins. He said it was a train wreck. As the saying goes...no good deed goes unpunished.

I just played a backyard BBQ a few weeks ago with a new band I just joined. The $5 cover went to a cancer charity. It was fairly well organized and sound was provided. We just showed up and played a 45 minute set for an appreciative crowd. My complaint was about how it was a missed opportunity. Here we were in a neighborhood of million dollar houses, and they raised like $410. The same people who paid $5 would have paid $20 or more, and they probably would have coughed up even more if they passed the hat a couple times. I guess sometimes these benefits are more for moral support than financial relief.

 

[40Hz]

Sounds like Grace and Compassion. Neither of which are affected by his former employment nor the reason he left. Just my tuppence.

^This.

Never begrudge aid to someone whose misfortune is no fault of their own.

It's not a good thing to turn your back on someone even when it is their own fault.

Cruelty and vengeance are roads that have no ending.

 

[Inky13]

Unless it’s an elaborately staged plot for him to get his long-awaited revenge, I say go for it.

 

[Dynomuttasaurus]

No question at all. Play the benefit. Be an upstanding dude.

I was fired from a band two years ago. It sucked, and I was distinctly hurt. Especially because no matter how much I was challenged with their musical culture (there was always an unscripted, unpracticed component to our live show that is not my style - I'm an event planner by profession), I really like the guys. It was weird for me to see and chat with them afterwards, but I'm in a new band and we played a show with them last month. It was super cool. Kinda like Metallica and Megadeth situatuion - except without the fame, talent and fanbase. We plan on doing more shows together.

 

[Reedt2000]

I wish I'd thought of that before making something like this:

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You're the bassist, that's how you look to the audience anyway

I'm with the general consensus, there may be situations where this would be weird but not this one. Sounds like the right move and a great karma builder.

 

[JRA]

i'm with the group: play the benefit for a person/musician in need! it's not a weird consideration at all. good luck to him and his!

has anyone ever played their ex's wedding?

multiple ex-GFs! but not an ex-wife.

Because... Dang.