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Benefit for fired band member?

Weird?

  • Yes

    Votes: 57 31.8%

  • No

    Votes: 122 68.2%
  • Total voters
    179
#82
I saw the reply about wanting to ask the question hypothetically without the nature of the benefit being brought into consideration. In that case, it'd depend to an extent on how acrimonious the parting was, frankly; no one enjoys getting canned, but did he start making public displays of enmity toward anyone, slash anyone's tires, try to seduce anyone's S.O., etc etc? That's the sort of thing I'd want to know. Being fired is literally its own punishment, so that particular debt was paid.


Of course in this case, even an angst-ridden split would still warrant an olive branch. And even if no one currently cares for the chap, playing a benefit for someone on hard times makes the world a bit better of a place.


Also: Pets being lost in the fire. I'd be onboard soon as I heard that.
 
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#88
There are some situations in which we do well to rise above our petty grievances and take the high road, and this is one of them. Yes it might feel weird for those who were in the band when he was fired, but it's a great way to demonstrate that certain things are more important than our little squabbles.

Playing an ex's wedding? That would be weird. I was invited to an ex's wedding once and I laughed and hung up the phone. Now, if it were an ex that I split up with on very good platonic terms, I'd have no problem with it. But if the breakup was painful, no way.
 
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#90
arbiterusa said:
Also, great question about playing an ex’s wedding. Really made me think. Still don’t have a good answer. Feel like I should have no problem with it. But I would.
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I'd roll into that gig with a big smile on my face, thanking whatever higher power you believe in that she's my ex. And then I'd close the night with "Friends In Low Places." :D
 
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#91
Bodeanly said:
What is your opinion on playing a benefit for a former band member who was fired? We were asked to do a show, but I'm leaning towards "weird," even though he was fired before I joined up (NOT talking about the bassist I replaced). We are doing it, but I wanted to ask you folks.

Also (not really related but where my head is with this): has anyone ever played their ex's wedding? Because... Dang.
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No and no...
Especially the not related
Dang no...
I thought this was about health benefits. It was even stranger...:)
 
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#94
I was supposed to play an ex's wedding, but I had transportation issues and couldn't get there. I felt bad that I missed it. Other ex's I would play for others I wouldn't. I'd have to be on real good terms with her and her new partner.

And I'd play for the guy who lost his house. In your case you weren't even around when the firing happened, so I don't see an issue if the rest of the band is good with it.
 
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#96
Bodeanly said:
I originally did not want to get into the details of this particular benefit. I was simply wondering how many of you would think it was weird to do one for a former member. Like, maybe the guitarist slept with your ex-drummer’s wife and needed money for surgery. Or maybe a former member had stolen some gear and fell off a roof. But, here we are.
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I only read your post and replied. Never thought to scroll. So at least with one person you can say you did not get into any details ;)
 
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