I guess I don't get it -- if you're arranging the gigs, why do you need a BL anyway? You may need another musician to take the ex-BL's place, but you probably don't need someone to tell you how to wear your hair.
I've been in a 4-to-5 person band since 2008 and there is no BL. We respect each other, and we all share in the gig (and pay) decisions and in the musical direction decisions equally. We've done thousands of gigs including a number of festival venues and produced 4 albums together. We have had some amicable personnel changes over the years but still the band goes on, with the same leadership void. It seems to work.
I'd wish any band this level of interpersonal respect and success.
It is certainly more democratic now.Ok to a strong lead, no to total autocrat.
On the basis of making absolute decisions with no communications, he had to go.
It would only be a short question of time before he performed the same stunt again, imv.
Good job.
That said, maybe it's just my roots in Orchestra, but I don't mind taking orders in a band. It's what I'm used to. I'm actually most comfortable having someone else organize, choose tunes and book and me just being the guy who shows up with all his parts down and ready to play. I was even willing (though not eager) to make the changes to my appearance and I only booked this one to get us off the ground.
It was the disrespect, lack of professionalism and sneakiness that did it for us. Myself and the other members were far more experienced than BL and immediately saw all the red flags.
I'll see myself out after this comment, but if you're performing a tribute to Oasis, congratulations on striking new levels of meta-authenticity.
IMHO, you're doing a great tribute to Oasis with all that band drama.
Believe me this has very much occurred to us.