I just did a gig with a singer who has a poor sense of time. It's not a tempo issue, it's just where we are in the measure and when to come in. He doesn't have any formal training. But neither do I, and I don't have to think about it at all, so I really struggled to explain to him how I (or any of our other band members) do it. I mean, I can try and explain that you start singing on the "a" of the 5th bar but that's not how I perceive a song, so it's a lot of work for me to reverse-engineer my instinct and lay it out for him for every single verse of every single song. FYI we're not doing any crazy prog time signatures, it's mostly 4/4 stuff.
He ended up doing a ton of work memorizing specific hooks in some instrument melody or a drum accent that he would use as a cue. That worked pretty decently at our final rehearsals leading up to the show. On stage, it all went back to poopie and the rest of us were left covering for his mistakes.
It's sad because he has a good voice and is an excellent frontman. He's also an awesome fellow, always willing to take feedback, and willing to work to improve himself. But I'm not sure what to tell him. Should I encourage him to take voice lessons? Instrument lessons (he plays a little guitar)? Can one learn timing, or is it an innate ability so if you don't have it you're completely screwed? If there's no hope for him I'd rather give him the harsh news instead of false hope.
Do any of you have experience working with someone who had a hard time with timing, but improved over time? FYI we're all in our 40s to there's no more brain cells left to develop, they're all dying slowly.