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Cancer 1....My pop 0

MJ5150

MJ5150

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#1
My dad has been hiding something from me. He went in for exploratory surgery today. The doctor was looking for cancer in his bladder. Yep, he found it. My dad called and told me. This is the second worst day of my life. There are more tests to be done to determine the course of treatment and how long my dad will live. :bawl:

If you are offended by people who get on soapboxes and preach about not smoking, leave now........Right now I am filled with anger, confusion, deep sadness, and other things. I hate the guy who invented cigarettes....I hate the people who make cigarettes.....I hate people who sell cigarettes....I hate the person who introduced my dad to cigarettes. I hate them all. I hate the fact that some stupid piece of paper with leaves in it is going to strike down and kill my father. I hate the fact that my dad has tried several times to quit, only to go back a month or so later.

For the love of God.....if you smoke.......

STOP

NOW

Don't turn into my dad. This is horrible. So many people love my dad, and now he is going to die at the hands of some stupid cigarette.

Thanks for reading. I'll be leaning on my TB buddies alot over the next few days and weeks. Sure I have my fleshly family, but you guys/gals are important to me too.

-Mike
 
#3
wow, I hate hearing stuff like this, I hope he has been found out early enough.

and for the record, I finally quit the cancer sticks in late 2001. The center of my world and my best friend lost both her grandfathers to Esophageal cancer.... both life long pack a dayers. It took 6 years for her to get me to quit.
 
#5
I am sorry dude, it really sucks but don’t give up so easy.

Cancer has not won yet, your father may beat it, there is a chance and having mindset that cancer already won should be stopped. Your pops probably needs you now and you won’t be able to help if you think it’s over.

I totally agree with you on quitting! I really wish people I know and love would stop as well (including both of my parents). I am so glad that it was easy for me to quit I hope others who want to quit will be able to do it as easy.

Good luck man, I really hope that your pops beats it and goes on, be there for him dude and I am sure most of us will be there for you...

I am sorry if I came across as a jerk, I didn’t mean to do that. Remeber though, as of today its still 0-0

Love dude.
 
#6
Sorry to hear that Mike. I lost my dad in 1986 to CPOD at age 58. He had smoked since he was 16.

I wish you strength, patience and hope. I encourage you to spend time with your father and make it happy time, avoid being gloomy if you can. Don't waste it being bitter and angry about things you can't change now. Enjoy him while you can.

You and your father are in my prayers.
 
#7
kserg said:
I am sorry if I came across as a jerk, I didn’t mean to do that.
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Dude...how can I be mad at someone with a Gene Frenkle video as his avatar. :D

I see what you're saying. Maybe I won't be so mad in the morning. Hate and anger have pretty much taken over right now.

-Mike
 
#10
I lost my grandpa whom i never met due to cigs. They are horrid in every way I support your train of thought on them. This is a terrible thing to have happened but as kserg said don't let your dad feel he has lost already. The human mind is a powerful thing and if he believes he can beat it it is possible. Be there for him and reassure him he can beat this and outlive any who says otherwise. My prayers for you and your family.

-Vince
 
#11
Hey Mike, real sorry to hear about that. I was devastated when I heard my sister got lymphatic cancer about 13 years back, but she beat it and she's doing just fine. Like serg said, it's still 0-0 at the moment, keep on hoping.

Bill
 
#16
I'm sorry to hear about your Pop. My prayers go out to you and yours.:(

Smoking is the WORST. I finally quit 6 mo. ago after years of trying. Still no guarantee, but hopefully I'll add a few years.

Hang in there!
 
#17
I understand how you feel Mike. I also lost my Dad to cancer when he was just 52. He had been a pipe smoker all his days. I am so pleased that in Scotland come March 26th smoking is going to be banned in ALL public places. My sons are also delighted as they hate gigging in venues where you can cut the smoke cloud with a knife. Passive smoking is just not fair. No-one is taking away anyones liberties by saying that they can't smoke - just don't do it where I can breathe in the poison.

All the best Mike - I'll be thinking of you and your Dad.
 

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