While playing next day w/DI box sound people used the sound was very boomie, especially when I used the E string. Turned Bass almost off on amp to no avail.
The sound needs to be processed discretely for different uses and listening positions. The processing that works for you on stage will not necessarily work for the house mix. Likewise, the processing that works for the house mix won't necessarily work for you on stage.
There is no ideal solution because of the way acoustics work. The sound from your stage rig will typically fight a bit with the sound from the PA. Also the sound from the PA can bleed on stage and fight with your stage rig. This typically causes degradation, and in some instances the degradation can be severe. Because of this, you rarely get perfect sound.
My advice.
1. Have reasonable expectations.
2. Work with the audio tech to find a reasonable compromise. If you aspire to being a pro, I suggest prioritizing the audiences listening experience as much as possible. However, you do need to hear well enough to perform.
3. Experiment with the way you set up your rig to see if you can make it easier to hear at a lower volume. This could potentially improve what you hear on stage and reduce how much your stage sound impacts the house mix.
Regarding #3. I typically elevate my speaker and tilt it back to aim at my head to ensure I can hear the full bandwidth of my signal as it travels directly from the cab to my ears. This allows me to hear more clearly at a lower volume. However, if you prefer a big thumpy sound with no highs, you will probably hate it.
The sound from subs tends to shoot out almost equally in all directions. This means you may get a lot of sub bass on stage. There's not much you can do about this. Sometimes reversing the polarity of your DI signal can help. Reversing polarity does not fix the problem, but it can change the frequency where the problem occurs, which is sometimes useful.
NOTE: Some DIs have a polarity switch. Also most quality mixers allow the audio tech to switch the polarity on your channel.