Considering leaving...

[LBS-bass]

I would not make a decision like this when you're mad at yourself for making a mistake. We all make them now and then.

As others have said, it sounds like you might have too much on your plate. When you are through being upset about the mistake, you'll be in a slightly better position to assess how much stress this is really bringing you and how much you really want or need to get out from under the one band. It might very well be the best decision, but wait a few days before you make any calls.

 

[Reedt2000]

I would not make a decision like this when you're mad at yourself for making a mistake. We all make them now and then.

As others have said, it sounds like you might have too much on your plate. When you are through being upset about the mistake, you'll be in a slightly better position to assess how much stress this is really bringing you and how much you really want or need to get out from under the one band. It might very well be the best decision, but wait a few days before you make any calls.

This is definitely good advise. I've been thinking about this for a while now and I think it's the right move. With that being said I wouldn't do anything until I'm in a rational and positive frame of mind. I know the decision will be final and I do take that seriously, even though the band is pretty low-key and casual.

 

[Reedt2000]

Managing stress in one's life is really important. It sounds like you noticed that your warning light just went off. Act on the warning, remove a little stress from your life. "Step away," as you put it.

Just noticed the bass in your profile pic. Looks like on old Ibanez with graphics or a crazy wood top? Is it yours? What is it?

(Is it still derailing if it's your own thread? )

 

[crucislancer]

Thinking about stepping away from a band I've played in for a decade. They don't play much, 1 or 2 times a month typically. They also play the same 2 venues 95% of the time. It's a blues/oldies/country band. I like all the members and everyone can play.

I've got a lot going on (two working bands, finishing an online degree, full-time job & part-time job). I double booked myself today and thankfully caught it early enough to arrange a sub for the gig I'm not gonna do (which Is the blues band, the other band has a much larger, more significant, and better paying gig).

Personally I hate that. I work really hard to keep things straight and professional so I'm totally mad at myself for slipping up (it is a non-event for the blues band, they've got a tiny gig and could have gone acoustic w/o bass and been fine).

I think I'm just over-committed. If I look at all of the things I do to see which I can cut out, the blues band seems like the right choice. It would not only free up a weekend or two but I wouldn't have to worry about conflicting dates. I'd still be available as a sub if they needed. It's a little bittersweet but I think the time has come.

Curious to hear if anyone has had similar experiences.

Wow! I would be overwhelmed if I had that much on my plate.

If I were in your shoes, I would also back away from the blues band gig.