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Darling be home soon

I'm not in a band so my take is purely from my gut as an audience member. Play it at the beginning of the 2nd set and see how it goes. If you can nail it, I think it should be fine. I'm sure many won't have heard this before, in any variation. Who knows, this could be a signature song for your band. People may really dig it! Crazy things happen. Nothing ventured...
 
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This is why I grew tired of the consensus model of band management. I did it for a long time, and it ended up with all the strong personalities, or the best musicians dictating the repertoire. I never got to play the stuff I wanted while being shouldered with all the admin and marketing.

Then, enter a veteran musician who told me to just hire people as needed on a short-term contract basis, and give them the repertoire. This is possible in jazz, but harder in rock bands. I did that. And for a few years, I got to play everything I wanted. To the point I got it out of my system and no longer needed the band to play to my musical interests.

Whether I would push for this, if I were you, depends on how many tunes YOU want to do are implemented by the band. If they NEVER give you what you want, then I would press harder, citing the imbalanced ratio and the need to incorporate your requests. If you have a decent percent of the repertoire, I'd take satisfaction in that and then move on to the next song you want the band to implement. All while balancing everyone else's requests.

I do think that good band members and leaders do some "repertoire accounting" in which they have a mental assessment of how much of the repertoire each member is getting -- at least, the members who care about it. Some people are happy to play what the other members suggest, but some are adamant about playing the songs THEY want. If the band is truly democratic, then the leaders (formal or informal) will try to balance everyone's interests. And if one song is a dud to the audience, the band agrees to nix it.
 
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“If you like it, try it out! Sure it's obscure, most musicians haven't even heard of it, and half are saying don't even try it, but hey, do it anyways, and if the audience doesn't like it, they'll let you know, then dump of it”.

Or...

Be smart, skip all that nonsense and go to a song that's a safe(r) bet.

Throwing crap at the audience to see what sticks just doesn't sound like a great formula.

In my most humble opinion. :)
 
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Im the bass player in a Aussie cover band that specialises in 70-80’s rock with Both Uk and LA rock with a fair bit of Aussie rock thrown in.
I want to play Slade’s version of Darling be home soon, but 1/2 the band agrees but the other 1/2 say it’s too unknown, too slow and that it will lower the crowds enthusiasm and they will loose interest and we may not get em back up dancing etc.
Your thoughts please.
Sorry but I agree with them. Even The Lovin Spoonful rarely does it anymore.
 
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The Tedeschi Trucks version is well done and listenable. The Slade version, not so much. Neither one would not be welcomed by a dancing crowd. If you're doing a slow song it better be something everybody knows.
 
1/2 the band agrees but the other 1/2 say it’s too unknown

I'd be in "too unknown" group, but I think this highlights that where there may be agreement on what level of song popularity/memorability, we can still have difficulty separating our personal sensibilities and experiences from ideas of what's "common." I also think that being a musician (so probably more closely connected to music than the average bear) can skew perspective.

I'm in a 70's era tribute band that's aimed more at concert/festival type gigs versus the bar/dance type, and one thing we try to do is have a certain number of songs by some groups; every choice doesn't have to be epic, recognizable and memorable for some part of the audience is good enough for some songs. We were talking about adding a Heart song, and I brought up Kick It Out, Love Alive and Little Queen...I couldn't believe that of five people in the the 50 +/- some age range who are all connected to music, I was the only one with more than passing familiarity with those songs. My perspective was skewed. I had to accept it and move on.

At the other end of the spectrum, I was in a band that went with the idea that we could get away with some number of songs choices that didn't have to be well known as long as they were energetic and had a decent hook (which is still subjective but allowed for indulgences). I don't know that I ever came to agree with the philosophy, but we covered an AC/DC song called Get It Hot as an indulgence, and as unknown as it was, it went over well every time we did it.
 
Im the bass player in a Aussie cover band that specialises in 70-80’s rock with Both Uk and LA rock with a fair bit of Aussie rock thrown in.
I want to play Slade’s version of Darling be home soon, but 1/2 the band agrees but the other 1/2 say it’s too unknown, too slow and that it will lower the crowds enthusiasm and they will loose interest and we may not get em back up dancing etc.
Your thoughts please.
If you want to be a dance band, play dance songs.
 
I guess the question is, what's the point of this band? From half your band's response, I assume that the goal here is to be a working band that gets people dancing. If that's the case, then they're right, don't do this song, unless it's the sort of thing that's a local smash hit for your particular crowd. I had never heard of it before myself, and I don't think many others would have. Listening to it, it's no dance tune that's going to win them over with an infectious groove.

Of course, there are some cover bands where the point is to play music because they like it and actually getting gigs is not a priority, you'll pick up the occasional backyard party or town fair and that's all you want to do. In that case, go ahead and play what you want.

An in-between is what I've had in some bands, a "vanity song" rule - that in a three-hour set list, each band member is allowed one song that we'll play just because they want to, regardless of crowd response. It's a bit of a risk and you usually put those songs early in the first set before the crowd really gets going or at the end of the night when most of them have gone home anyway.
 
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Beat me to it...that version is sublime.
Actually I like Slades's take too...never heard that before.
Both are a lot better than Lovin' Spoonful's take, in my opinion.

True they are a brilliant band, though their version of this song is basically a Joe Cocker tribute, as it's the same in tempo etc. to Joe's version. (They also do a great version of Space Captain. They did it at Crossroads Guitar Festival, 2010, if memory serves, even had Chris Stainton, who played on it in Mad Dogs and Englishmen, guest on piano for the song.)