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depression: first step towards help?

#41
KoskoArts said:
Hey Displaced, you have haemophilia? ME TOO! I didn't think someone else on TB would have it. I had never met anyone else that did, though mines not too severe.
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Well, seeing that TB has some 50,000 members and that about 1 in 10,000 males has haemophilia the two of us might just fulfill the statistic quota for the TB-members... though I calculated with 50% female members, which I kind of doubt...
My case is severe, by the way: less than 1% of blood clotting activity.

smperry said:
If you don't "mesh" with the first person you meet, feel free to see someone else.
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That is a very important point. This just happens sometimes... you just don't get along with everyone.

xcental34x: That's great to hear. Best of luck to you!
 
#42
Most of the good advice has been given. Just want to add that it may be time to shake things up a little. Get help, but take this as a time to change what's wrong in your life. Perhaps go back to school, find a new place to live, etc.
 
#43
yeah it's all about getting in and seeing someone to talk to. therapy is all about forming a trusting relationship, and who more can you trust than someone who is paid a lot of money to not tell anything you tell them:d
and as someone said before the first step is the hardest, but it'll get easier, so no need to worry, you can get your perception of life turned around if you want to badly enough
 
#44
bmc said:
Just want to say how impressed I am by everyone's reaching out to help. There's a lot of caring people on TB.

Proud to share this space with you guys.
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+1
As a first post here on TB I couldn't have chosen a better one I think. I always try to look around a little before choosing a good forum where I want to post regulary, and this one will definitely work for me.

Just seeing how much everyone here care for the other member impressed me, I must say I had never seen this on any other forums.


By the way, I wish you the best of luck for your problem, and keep in mind that you're not alone.
 
#45
xcental34x- I just remembered something else:

The University of Memphis has a counseling program on campus that is open to the public and is priced on a sliding scale. It can be free if your financial situation warrants. The catch is that it is manned by psych students and monitored by their professors. My ex-wife worked there while she was getting her PhD, and I can tell you that the students are closely monitored by their professors. I'm not 100% sure they still do it, because it's been 7 years since I was last involved, but it's worth a shot. I can't remember the exact name, but it was located in the Psych building off of Duluth.

Good luck.
 
#47
Talk to your primary care physician. No need to goto a psych right away since that is definitely intimidating.

Tell the doc how long it's been like this and your symptons, just be honest... so many suffer from the same thing and worse, so you're not alone.


Also, exercise.. A LOT. That is a proven method. That doesn't mean you won't need anti-depressants, but working out is a natural mood-booster.

Good luck and keep your head up and your grooves low.
 
#48
Displaced, I really just bruise extra hard from small things, and have some bleeding issues. The worst was with wisdom teeth, at the end of the story I had to take 10 pills every 6 hours, it was like a meal, that sucked. Its really more the lifestyle things that I keep myself away from, ie: (punching games, wrestling, violence). Though it has made me into a bit passive and made me rely on intelligence more than strength, which is definitly a good thing. I guess good can be the outcome of bad, which is a big thing to remember, "the light at the end of the tunnel".


\Not hi-jacking thread
\\Just airing problems to help Xcental34X get more comfortable with airing his
\\\it is tough
 
#49
Yeah, I can vividly remember when they pulled my wisdom teeth. I had to stay at the hospital for one night so they could monitor whether the bleeding would get out of hand, despite the medication.

Other than that I should consider myself lucky: no broken bones, no bleeding inside the knees or other joints or anything. Just some occasional hefty bruises of which I don't know where they're from and very few problems with bleeding inside the muscles.

But actually, to get to the topic again, all of this had a lot to do with my depression. My parents were very protective because of my haemophilia. I could never play soccer (or any other "dangerous" sports) with the other kids, could never climb on trees, and lots of other stuff that kids do. Without these activities it is hard to test your limits and find your place among the your peers, which is important when you're young.
I had to focus on intelligence and thinking and on myself. That can be a good thing, but it also contributed a lot to me being a very shy, careful, introspective and emotional person.

Basically the haemophilia was a part of the "foundation" of the depression.
And, as I said, it also played a part in me refusing to look for help.

Getting professional help and moving to another city to start over again was the best thing I could do.
In the end I have lost some years of my life but I have gained a fresh new start, a lot of experience and it has made me a stronger person.

Still, these gains came at a steep price and I wouldn't wish anybody to have to go through that. Depression is not to be taken lightly.
If I'm not mistaken we have already lost a member here at TB because of depression and I hope this will never happen again.
That's why I'm glad that xcental34x felt he could come here for advice.
 
#50
displaced said:
Yeah, I can vividly remember when they pulled my wisdom teeth. I had to stay at the hospital for one night so they could monitor whether the bleeding would get out of hand, despite the medication.

Other than that I should consider myself lucky: no broken bones, no bleeding inside the knees or other joints or anything. Just some occasional hefty bruises of which I don't know where they're from and very few problems with bleeding inside the muscles.

But actually, to get to the topic again, all of this had a lot to do with my depression. My parents were very protective because of my haemophilia. I could never play soccer (or any other "dangerous" sports) with the other kids, could never climb on trees, and lots of other stuff that kids do. Without these activities it is hard to test your limits and find your place among the your peers, which is important when you're young.
I had to focus on intelligence and thinking and on myself. That can be a good thing, but it also contributed a lot to me being a very shy, careful, introspective and emotional person.

Basically the haemophilia was a part of the "foundation" of the depression.
And, as I said, it also played a part in me refusing to look for help.

Getting professional help and moving to another city to start over again was the best thing I could do.
In the end I have lost some years of my life but I have gained a fresh new start, a lot of experience and it has made me a stronger person.

Still, these gains came at a steep price and I wouldn't wish anybody to have to go through that. Depression is not to be taken lightly.
If I'm not mistaken we have already lost a member here at TB because of depression and I hope this will never happen again.
That's why I'm glad that xcental34x felt he could come here for advice.
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Thanks. Good lookin' out.
Peace
 
#51
Here is a small update. I finally decided to go to my mom, a nurse, for advice, and she directed me towards our family physician. So now I have an appointment at 11 AM on Monday.

Odd thing is, when I attempted to set up the appointment, the receptionist kept asking irrevelant questions, and when I finally told her it was for depression, she assumed I was coming for ADD.
 
#52
xcental34x said:
Here is a small update. I finally decided to go to my mom, a nurse, for advice, and she directed me towards our family physician. So now I have an appointment at 11 AM on Monday.

Odd thing is, when I attempted to set up the appointment, the receptionist kept asking irrevelant questions, and when I finally told her it was for depression, she assumed I was coming for ADD.
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Excellent!!!Goooooooooooood Job!!! You did it. :hyper:

The worst will be over at 11am on Monday. Find something to do this weekend. Maybe write some songs if you can't play, excercise, rent some movies... whatever. No partying.

Very Proud to have met you.
 
#53
I went to my appointment as scheduled today, and ended up waiting 2 hours before I finally got to see my physician. I explained to him my situation, and what I thought was wrong. He offered some advice for my living situation, and that was that I should talk with my roommates and confront them to straighten out my problems and find out why things are the way they are. Next, he wanted me to consult with my family, who has a history of depression, and find out what medications have worked in my family's cases. I was given some samples of an anti-depressant called "Lexapro," which my mom says will be good for my case. I final bit of advice he offered was to exercise daily, and try to walk for 30 minutes each day. I guess I'll keep this thread updated with any changes and my progress.

Lastly, I want to thank everyone who cared to offer advice, and are pulling for me. Y'all were right. The hard part is over now.
 
#57
xcental34x said:
I went to my appointment as scheduled today, and ended up waiting 2 hours before I finally got to see my physician. I explained to him my situation, and what I thought was wrong. He offered some advice for my living situation, and that was that I should talk with my roommates and confront them to straighten out my problems and find out why things are the way they are. Next, he wanted me to consult with my family, who has a history of depression, and find out what medications have worked in my family's cases. I was given some samples of an anti-depressant called "Lexapro," which my mom says will be good for my case. I final bit of advice he offered was to exercise daily, and try to walk for 30 minutes each day. I guess I'll keep this thread updated with any changes and my progress.

Lastly, I want to thank everyone who cared to offer advice, and are pulling for me. Y'all were right. The hard part is over now.
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Welcome back to the land of the living.
Peace
 
#59
Took it and Zoloft during my fight with depression, and, in the end, exercise is what really helped me more than anything.

I was a tournament fencer in high school, and dropping that to go to college and get a "real life" started pulled me down hard.

The pills worked, kept me alert and focused, but did horrible things to my digestive tract, so much so that going to work became a series of trips to the bathroom.

Glad to hear you're feeling more up and up, but don't rule out the exercise thing in favor of medication if you start having adverse reactions.

Hope all goes (and stays) well for you.
 

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