LOL yes more cabs!
I guess i need to clarify even more, the guitar distorted is much louder than the clean guitar, but the distortion pedal sucks out his mids which allows the bass to sit ok, but not great in the band mix.
During the clean parts, his mids come back in and just wipe out my bass. Where I can't hear the bass unless i overpower him. the more i think about it, the more i agree that it is an issue of eq and not cab and volume.
The guitarist is actually asking for the bass to be more present, not louder, but present. I feel like i'm lacking and he at one point suggested getting another cab. i have the mids cranked but i dont like the way it makes my tone so much like a horn.
I don't know if the Ampeg PF500 has sweepable mids, but i'll check. and the band mix with the guitar/drums/vocals is great it's just my bass is either too quiet or too loud, its been the biggest problem of just right, most of our shows im too loud or too quiet.
When im too loud the band mix sounds like mud and theres no more clarity. If i understand correctly, clarity comes from the mids and definition from treble.
Thanks for all the suggestions, so i think i should get an eq pedal or is there a magic setting that'll allow me to sit well in the mix, at one point we put the guitar tracked and analyzed it on a freq graph, theres a cut in the 800hz, but when i boosted there it didnt help much, when i boosted in the 450hz it cut better, but its muddier as a whole mixed with the band.