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Doing favor's for the band.

#22
ive been with my girlfriend for 4 and a half years, and we're just now considering moving in together (just finished uni etc). id have choice words for some dude i just met. even if he was a total legend, and wouldnt cause any problems, its just an asshat thing to do asking you when he barely knows you.
 
#25
jkramer5 said:
You don't have to kick him out, if you don't let him in. Consider HOW he got to a place in life that he needs to ask and acquaintance for a place to live. Bad luck, bad breaks, bad decisions, etc. whatever it is, it's all yours if you let him move in.
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I had a friend move in for a month, but I knew exactly why he needed a place...he had sold his house and bought another, but there was one month between the sale date and the possession date of his new house. I also know him to be a clean, honest person.

But, I would NEVER let someone I've only met once move in...the fact that he is asking someone he just met for a place to live should be a huge red flag.

Why hasn't he asked the other band members who supposedly know hime better for a place to live? Or has he already asked them and been turned him down??
 
#26
shadow_FIX said:
Makes me happy I don't have a spare anything at my place, let alone a spare bed. Then I can be honest and say, "Sorry to hear that, but honestly I can't help you out."

Are you charging him rent?
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yeah he's paying rent, and has to have his first months rent before he moves in. Plus since he's my ride to and from practices it'll save on gas money... and I'm broke as hell so another person paying part of the bills will give me some money to put back for better equipment.
 
#29
My gf and I live together in a 2 bedroom condo. When I moved in the other room was occupied by one of my gf's friends. Not long after we started dating I moved in. The my gf's friend's botfriend moved in. They moved out last January and I looked on Craigslist to find a new roommate to help cover rent. I got about 8 replies, only 1 seemed legit. I had the guy over to check the place out and he moved in 2 weeks later. He's turned out to be the best roommate ever, seriously a cool guy.

Around that same time my band had acquired a new drummer who was between housing. He was also looking for a place to live, and I would have considered him had I not just had someone move in. My drummer now lives in a house that my ex-roommate recently moved from. Now we're all happY!
 
#31
I had a couple move in that my girlfriend met that night just by hanging out the window smoking a cigarette. We needed the money. How did that turn out? With me being awoken to the sound of two cops in my hallway on Xmas eve morning at 7am, arresting him for selling prescriptions.

But good luck anyway ;)
 
#32
run, Forrest, run!

dood, you should take the very good advice given already.

No matter how desperate you are for cash, your problems could potentially increase exponentially if you let the wrong person move into your place. And after meeting someone ONCE, there's no way that you or anyone else is going to be able to make an informed decision.

don't be hasty.
 
#34
xxfaux_punkxx said:
yeah he's paying rent, and has to have his first months rent before he moves in. Plus since he's my ride to and from practices it'll save on gas money... and I'm broke as hell so another person paying part of the bills will give me some money to put back for better equipment.
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Oh, brother man...:scowl:
Why would you do this, man? Seriously, I'm not jumping your s**t. I'm actually cringing right now as I type this. I feel bad for you because you must have some real troubles (money wise) if you are getting mixed up in stuff like this. :( Bro, you sound like a total wreck. If you are so broke that you don't have a reliable ride and need to take on a TOTAL stranger to make ends me, then you need to get serious and do whatever you have to do to start making enough money so you can stand on your own without needed the assistance of strangers, man. You've lived long enough and been through enough already to know that this is going to backfire on you, brother.
What do you do for a living?
 
#36
As one of the resident old farts on this board......just some lessons learned from back in the day. I once was so young and eager to be in a band and feed my musical passion that I hooked up with some people that turned out to have some serious character flaws. One guitard refused to get a drivers license because he did not want to "become a number." Of course he couldn't get a day job either so we had to drive this knucklehead everywhere and support him. Another guitard turned out to be a sexual predator and would hit on any female of any age 15 to 50. Years later I find out the first guitard is a drug addict and the other is a registered sex offender. Don't hang around people you would not want to introduce to your grandmother just to be in a band. Find some nice people to hang with....bands are much more fun and drama free that way.
 
#37
Ignore all the advice on the internet, we don't know him.

Here's what you need to know to make an informed decision. Why didn't he move in with one of the band members he's been with forever, instead asking the new guy he only met once?

Because he knows the other band members that know him wouldn't let him move in.

They know him. Take the hint.

You don't know what he's into, but he's got no friends and no family that are willing to take him in. Then know what he's into. Some of it, anyway.

Randy
 

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