I did a rather thorough search through the forum and while the topic has been discussed before, similar circumstances were not found. Having said that, I've been in my current band for about 4 months and things are moving rather smoothly. We practice twice a week, have a steady weekly gig on Wednesdays, perform other gigs about 3-4 times a month, and have recorded a full CD as well. The problems enters the equation when it comes to me locking "in" with the drummer. I practice using a metronome and have a relative handle on my "feel" and "timing" but I can't seem to find the pocket with this guy. He uses an IEM metronome when we play live and he has become so use to hearing the clicks in his hear that he has lost the "feeling" of music. Everything we do must be rehearsed to the point that there is almost no spontaneity when we play it live. Don't get me wrong, most guys complain about their drummers inability to keep time during live performances but my complaint is that he has become mechanical and sterile. His complaint to me is that I'm playing on the beat and not sitting behind it which has become hard to do due to this mechanical style of playing. I really like this band and the guys in it but I really need to find a way to lock in with this guy to avoid future problems. Anyone else have these kind of experiences and what did you do to get through them? Thanks in advance.