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- Thread starter Kwesi
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Or blend the two posts above and tell him that he brings up murderous feelings in you. Imply that you have killed before.
LOL, no! I will say that the entire hour and a half that we spent together was easily the most uncomfortable experience of my life. Time just decided to slow down and drag out the agony as he had me watch him play some poorly dubbed anime related game while he fully voiced over all text that wasn't dubbed (complete with fake accent based on the characters country of origin), pointed out awkward but blatantly obvious sexual references and told me about which girls he wished were real...
Luckily, I managed to come up with an excuse to get him out of my house quickly and he hasn't contacted me since. So far, so good.
Have you considered the radical step of honest communication? I swear, %90 of all interpersonal relationship questions asked on the 'net could be solved with "Be honest, and talk to the person in question not a bunch of people on the computer."
Be real with this guy. I once knew a guy that was the most depressing, low-life, dope fiend weasel & this guy wanted to drop by, etc.
I had NO intention of letting this clown in my home. I had a young son and responsibilities. I had NO desire to have him bring his nightmare into my life or to join him in his proud penitentiary past-times.
So when I was working on my house this guy drops by (un-invited obviously) I just told him something to the effect of : "I got many things happening in my life right now & they don't include you. Please don't hang out here. I don't know you." Really simple & clean; no BS. That was the end of that hassle. The guy left a trail of slime like a snail behind him; he was a bad deal. No sense in being polite because he didn't get "polite".
The guy you got there sounds like a simple immature sort that's just trying to be friendly but is annoying - I doubt you'll even hear from him. But IF he does call, just tell him that you don't have time to hang out.
I had NO intention of letting this clown in my home. I had a young son and responsibilities. I had NO desire to have him bring his nightmare into my life or to join him in his proud penitentiary past-times.
So when I was working on my house this guy drops by (un-invited obviously) I just told him something to the effect of : "I got many things happening in my life right now & they don't include you. Please don't hang out here. I don't know you." Really simple & clean; no BS. That was the end of that hassle. The guy left a trail of slime like a snail behind him; he was a bad deal. No sense in being polite because he didn't get "polite".
The guy you got there sounds like a simple immature sort that's just trying to be friendly but is annoying - I doubt you'll even hear from him. But IF he does call, just tell him that you don't have time to hang out.
Post-sex discussions can really be awkward sometimes.
Yea, they can... wait wut?
Because I know I'd feel horrible. There's really no way to mince my words in this case. I don't like him, I don't want to be around him and I don't want to be in contact with him. Ever. And if he were to ask why the only real answer I have would be because he's weird beyond my comfort level.
Words like that would hurt anyone.
You don't need to be 100% honest about the reasons, just make it clear that he's not welcome in your life. Just say you're seeing someone that you really like or something like that.
Better yet, do this through an email. It's easier and you can choose your words wisely without hurting him or yourself. Keep it concise and to the point and DO press the send button. End of story...
If it gets beyond that go to your local police station.
That is a weak excuse. If he is worth not hurting (or feeling bad if you do hurt him) he deserves better than to be strung along and lied to. And leaving him thinking you are friends, then just avoiding him is doing exactly that. It's cowardly and dishonest. You aren't avoiding hurting him: you're avoiding seeing the consequences of your actions so you can feel good about yourself.
There really isn't a fluffy bunny "I love you but we can't be together" way of spinning it, sure. But there are plenty of ways of saying "I don't want to hang out" that are honest but not brutal. Some of the hardcore nerds I've known (and that's what he sounds like) haven't necessarily been aware that they had serious social issues because no one had the balls to tell them "You do X, and it's not appropriate and I don't want to be around it."
Well sir, in this particular case, I am without balls. I can deal with that. Maybe I'll grow pair the next time he was to hang
?Can't bring myself to see the guitar I wanted as anything but "something Taylor Swift would play" now so I'll probably pick up something more indicative of my manliness... which of course would mean it would have to be pink
! The store stocks super cheap Samick acoustic-electric and to my guitar-newb ear they sound great so I'll probably be getting one of those in a week or two 
. The one I played had a 2-tone burst over very lightly quilted maple so I think it gets a pass on the man scale, lol.
Well sir, in this particular case, I am without balls. I can deal with that. Maybe I'll grow pair the next time he was to hang
That's real. I can respect your honest self-appraisal. And if you can live with the annoyance of the guy; that's righteous. Let it go.
