Fired, and relieved.

[bassmanrocke]

I was let go by the cover and I was asked to join about 8 months ago. While I'm a little upset by what I consider a tremendously unprofessional way of canning me, I have to be honest that I am feeling a great deal of relief. When things become toxic it's best to be out.

 

[El Güero]

The "relieved" part of the title mirrors the OP's sig. I wonder if...

 

[AboutSweetSue]

Yeah, I’m thinking of going full on to hell with it so that I’ll be forced out of my job. I have a hard time quitting. Especially cause I need money and all. Just need someone to push me off the cliff, and I should be good to go.

 

[two fingers]

I was let go by the cover and I was asked to join about 8 months ago. While I'm a little upset by what I consider a tremendously unprofessional way of canning me, I have to be honest that I am feeling a great deal of relief. When things become toxic it's best to be out.

Glad you're no longer exposed to the toxicity.

 

[Space Pickle]

did you pee on his shoes

 

[bassmanrocke]

No, but I'll consider it next time.

 

[Jefenator]

Sometimes they save you the stress of quitting.

 

[QORC]

Been there. was both relieved to be away from a group that simply was not a good environment for me, yet resented how they did it.

oh well. Few band firings are pleasant or done the way we wish them to be done. Most musicians are kind of cowards and will take the easy way out (an email, a text) instead of the mature way out. It's just part of the biz it seems to me. Heck, I found out once that i had been replaced after I got back from a vacation via Facebook - they had already posted about their new bass player! ***!! oh well

Just remember: They clearly weren't for you. It's not a match. Bands are like dating. some you just have a cup of coffee with, some are long term and meaningful, but most simply are a footnote in your musical life. Just keep playing and put the past behind you except to the extent to which you evaluate yourself - why did you join them and what did you miss when you made that decision which resulted in such a calamity? How can you avoid that in the future. could you yourself have handled the situation better, no matter if they were jerks or not? Take something away from everything - especially the failures. it works in all aspects of life

 

[PhatBottomBass1]

Definitely need the closure of the band postmortem.

Many bands are like girls. They have left the relationship long before a guy is aware of it or finds out on FB that there is a new couple!

 

[Thorny1]

I had the exact same thing happen around the beginning of the pandemic. I was asked to join (headhunted) and started playing with them in october. In mid march 2020, we stopped playing due to COVID. A few months later, I got a text saying I wasnt a good fit- no details offered. Gee, thanks.

 

[biguglyman]

Got canned from a band years ago because I would not put up with the female keyboard player's prima donna attitude. They called me six months later saying she'd been canned and begging me to come back. Went back on MY terms and helped create one of the better, local cover bands in the area. Gigged for years...a LOT!

 

[mrcbass]

I was let go by the cover and I was asked to join about 8 months ago. While I'm a little upset by what I consider a tremendously unprofessional way of canning me, I have to be honest that I am feeling a great deal of relief. When things become toxic it's best to be out.

Been there. I was one gig away from giving notice when I got canned. The reason I know it was one gig, is because I subbed of them after the parting and I had a sub hat on vs. a member hat and many things that bugged me became very clear with the different mindset. It's not my band anymore - the idiocy was humorous rather than aggravating. With clearer mindset, I turned down the next request to sub.

Embrace the relief and move forward.

 

[QORC]

My firing text message was something like, "We've decided to move in a new direction and we've replaced you". cowardice, of course. it's the band equivalent of the "It's not you, it's me" way to break up with someone.

and my very best friend was a member, but not the band leader, who knew this was coming and didn't warn me. This was someone who had slept at my house, and eaten in my kitchen. Who, because he was poor, I often drove him and I and our gear to gigs out of State. Needless to say, we ceased being friends. I think that was the part that hurt the most. He could've warned me and given me some dignity, but instead, I leaned into the punch. I blasted him, not the band leader, by text. We've never spoken since.

but that's life...live and learn, but always keep moving forward, no matter what punches life throws at you

 

[Jefenator]

Being exclusively invested in one band has its advantages but so does the freelancing approach. When I lose first-call status, it's usually because I am too busy with other projects. And in that situation it is usually quite amicable. (Absolutely 100% call me if & when you need a sub...)
There was one time that didn't sit so well, when I got unceremoniously dropped from a bunch of jobs I could have really used over that super lean winter of '08/'09. That artist had a knack for $#!&canning people at the drop of a hat and my replacement wound up doing gigs 400 miles away for gas money and being stuck in a big city on the opposite coast for 10 days without any per diem. So while that firing might have stung at first, it definitely worked out better for me in the long haul!