These threads always have a mix of real-world experience and informed opinions, along with other posts that reflect a different world view. To be expected on TB where the participants run the gamut from touring and session pros to weekend warriors to "rich doctors" to kids playing in their bedroom. And that's...ok.
A couple of points based on personal experience. Plenty of pros tour with their Foderas and other high end basses. Joe Local rock player doesn't, because he doesn't play a Fodera. It's a numbers game.
Foderas get played in dive bars. Many of us "day job +" players take gigs in a lot of places. I've played mine on large festival stages, hotel ballrooms, nice clubs, not so nice clubs, coffee houses, etc. if the gig is safe for me, it is safe for my Fodera.
Fodera is not "the name" but it is up there, and many of the most influential bassists play them relative to other boutiques. At the end of the day it doesn't make a difference to me because I have to play my bass not them. And those influential players are unknown to 99% of the listening public so the whole status argument falls flat unless you're talking about trying to impress TB'ers.
Bottom line - play what you love. One reason that I gladly spend "stupid amounts of money" is that not only do I get a phenomenal instrument that speaks to me, but the people behind that instrument are flat out awesome. The personal attention that a customer gets from Jason, Laura, etc, the attention that the instrument gets from Vinny, Joey, Vadim, etc, is part of the equation and worth the price of admission. I get why some people can't or won't spend the money for one. I totally understand the law of diminishing returns and for some things in my life I impose a stricter budget and worry more about bang for the buck.
That said, I can say that for me the big bucks I paid for my YYD has proven to be perhaps the best value purchase I've made. Why? Value is about more than price. The emotional return and gratification I get playing that bass is worth far more than I paid for it. But that is for me - can't say that happens for everyone. Ymmv.