Is this how it happened for other fretless players?
No. I started on a fretted, one that I would very charitably say "sucked". A few months in, already knew I wanted a better bass, so a friend of mine in wood shop offered to build me one. It came out reasonably OK, but he then confessed he had no idea how to put frets in. I tried it without; I'd played violin for almost 8 years prior so how hard could it be?
Not that hard. The end. I haven't played anything but fretless since 1984.
The mischief with fretless is that after a time you want to play only fretless, and in some musical contexts that is a poor fit.
I disagree vehemently. I've played mine in everything from acoustic duos to metal to slap to musical theater, and had several bandleaders fail to even notice I was playing a fretless until it was pointed out to them. You don't have to make it sound like Boys of Summer or Graceland, because, although awesome, that kind of tone and approach does not work with everything. But any fretless player who's not just playing it as an effect knows that.
Seriously, it's all in your hands. Nice attack and precise intonation and nobody will know you're playing fretless, unless they look.
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