Gay Musicians

[ImNotJoel]

Question to the op. I know a lot of people are saying just play people don't judge they just want good music. Are you looking to play with other gay musicians specifically. I have friends and lived with gay people and a lot of times they wanted to hang out with

 

[the harp unstrung]

Profound bs aside, I listen to most anything I can get my hands on, but lately I have found an interest in some modern folk music. It isn't really funky, but it does attract some eclectic fans and musicians. Musical projects like "Andrew Jackson Jihad" and "Spoonboy" touch on social issues and gay equality, etc. While most of the music is acoustic folk with little to no bass in it, I find a lot of open minded musicians at the shows and online. If you aren't into folk so much, you can always go to some reggae shows if you can handle the weed. They are always open minded, free loving, chill dudes. But most of all, the best thing to do is never assume about sexual orientation. LGBT people can be found at the most unexpected places.

I am an 18 y/o college student from NJ, btw.

And I am a 60 year old straight, white elementary school teacher in Georgia, btw, who admires your perspective, and your ability to give it voice...
I live an hour away from 'the most gay-friendly' city in America, and I can't tell you if I've ever turned to my wife and asked "Do you think the singer/drummer/bassist is gay?" I guess I'm just lucky to have grown up and out of that entire thing. Give the credit to my Mom...

 

[two fingers]

Both of the gay club/gig musicians I have worked with have been female singers. They were both great singers. One was all business and a true pro. The other became a close friend until she moved away. I still love here. Man, her voice, and the expression on her face when she was singing...... (snaps out of it)

I'm sorry you feel lonely OP. I won't pile on with those trying to tell you what you "should" feel. I just hope it gets better for you. I hope you find those people with which you wish to relate. And if that doesn't happen, perhaps you can live dual lives like many of the rest of us. I have my musician friends, and then there's everybody else. They hardly ever meet each other. That's just the way it is. It doesn't bother me, but, then again, it's just a choice for me. It seems as though what you're saying (and feel free to correct me if I'm wrong) is that having your gay friends over here, and your musician friends way over there would be sad for you. I understand that. I hope it comes together for you either way.

 

[cronker]

Hi OP.
I'm also a gay musician, and in fact there are quite a few of us here. We have a LGBTI Club here.
I'm not going to get into a lot of the discussion points here, mostly because everyone has their POV and are most welcome to it.
I've never played in a band with another gay player, there simply aren't that many around here. However, I've always been welcomed in any band as part of the group, no discrimination etc.

I think, to help you with loneliness, you should look to people who actually AREN'T other gay muso's. Having friends from a wide variety of interests gives you a larger pool of knowledge to learn from. If you find a gay friend who is into underwater basket weaving, you have something you don't know about to discuss. You can teach them about James Jamerson vs Carol Kaye and they can teach you about...um..weaving.

 

[GSMBass]

This thread was started 4 years ago... If you are looking for love, don't look for it among musicians, we are a terrible bunch Joking aside, if you wish to play with other gay musicians for any reason, be it potential for dating or just jamming with a group of like-minded people, look for it, search the interwebs and ask questions. Nothing will come to you if you only wish hard enough.

 

[lfmn16]

This thread was started 4 years ago... If you are looking for love, don't look for it among musicians, we are a terrible bunch Joking aside, if you wish to play with other gay musicians for any reason, be it potential for dating or just jamming with a group of like-minded people, look for it, search the interwebs and ask questions. Nothing will come to you if you only wish hard enough.

Or quit waiting for someone else to do it and start your own gay musicians network.

 

[amimbari]

a Gay musicians network? they have been around for many years. Here is one of many examples out of Nashville:

WEDNESDAY, MARCH 01, 2006
Welcome Fellow Subnet Members

This site was established for gay and bi musicians to hook up with other guys, find gigs, share information, alert others about bad situations etc. We have a social hour on Sunday at a members home, where you can network and make dates. Start posting.