It sounds like the rest of the band has already destroyed their hearing. That would be a cliff I'd be unwilling to follow them off of (dangling preposition pun). Hearing loss is no joke.
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Take advice from an old guy.....find another band! These types never change,find some like minded bandmates.

That sucks. RE: Looking like you’d better invest in some ear filters with a 25dB cut. Ear plugs will not give you proper protection. You only get one set of ears.
We play breweries often, mostly outside. Our #1 venue is subject to db limits at their property boundary. We always comply, and we get asked back often. No excuse for you and your bandmates to play so loudly.I played an outdoor brewery a few years ago. The owner had a decibel meter. Lead guitarist still wouldn't turn down.
We didn't get invited back.
Right then and there tell him straight out that the band is too Fing loud for the room. Then sneer at him with contempt as you start breaking down.I play in a cover band that has always had issues with volume. Last night was the worst ever. The restaurant/bar we were in has a loud ambient environment anyway (just regular crowd noise is over 90db) and the band decided to have volume “arms race”. Several times I suggested we pull back our volume but it didn’t work. Even with hearing protection I was hurting.
At the end of the night the drummer/band leader commented, “I don’t understand why we cannot keep a crowd”.
This - get custom earplugs - the off the shelf musician ones don’t provide enough protection. Also, get ones that you can either use with filters or with a solid plug for maximum attenuation (a set of filters covered with super glue also works). Best $200 you can spend (around $120-150 for plugs plus $50-80 getting the ear molds made).
I would also recommend getting some of the foam 33dB plugs to keep in your case - they don’t sound good put they provide awesome protection for really loud gigs in a pinch (and are really cheap).
This was you are covered regardless of what the band does volume-wise. The last band I played in was stupid loud and the custom ear plugs with solid plugs provided enough protection.
I play in a cover band that has always had issues with volume. Last night was the worst ever. The restaurant/bar we were in has a loud ambient environment anyway (just regular crowd noise is over 90db) and the band decided to have volume “arms race”. Several times I suggested we pull back our volume but it didn’t work. Even with hearing protection I was hurting.
At the end of the night the drummer/band leader commented, “I don’t understand why we cannot keep a crowd”.
After the first set is done I ALWAYS go to the bar and ask about the volume. You have to remember, It's not about the band. You're there first most to help sell beer. Get over yourself.