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girls getting in the way

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3star2nr

Jun 2, 2013
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#1
I'm having a problem with my band. I need some advice on how to solve it. I'm in a trio. Were trying very hard to get more gigs, people dig what we play, we played 3 open mics and the croud loved it one girl even flashed us on stage lol.

Anyway, we have a big gig coming up Saturday. We should be practicing and promoting all this week. Well the drummer avoided our calls to hang out with some chick. Which meant me and the guitarist had to walk for miles to print up flyers. The rain fell on the way back home last night so we decided to wake up early today reprint them then go postering. Well this morning I wake up he's gone out with some girl.

This girl is bats it crazy she burnt the hell out of him a few months ago so much so he had to go to the hospital for treatment. He said they were done she show s up today and has been out all day.

I feel like I'm the only one taking this seriously. I have a girlfriend but I made her know that I need to focus on this band as its my only viable source of income right now, she's giving me my space.

How do I talk to them I feel like quitting the band and having them teach their chicks to play bass.

To me its so stupid, its a simple balancing act, you know you have stuff to do get it done then spend time with the ladies, not ignore your responsibilities because some girl called.

Its ****ing pathetic
 
#4
I talked to the guitarist about it he says I'm using the band to manipulate him into making a decision he doesn't want to make.

I don't even understand the logic behind that. The girl literally tried too kill him, and he chose her knowing full well we had stuff to do today. On top of that he's supposed to be meeting with another promoter tonight and it looks like hes gonna blow him off for the girl.

I have invested everything into this band, and making it work and its like I'm the only one who really cares. Worse part is its not my band I didn't start it I'm not the leader but I've been having to take all these responsibilities the gigs we have coming up I arranged and while the drummer and the guitarist were talking to chicks I was setting up gigs with another promoter who's coming to see us play on Saturday.

I really hate committing to something and not following through but enough is enough
 
#5
ive been trying. But I'm caught between a rock and a hard place.

No one wants to hire me until I get my engineering degree in December.

And all the minimum wage jobs keep saying no.

Giging is literally the only thing I have left

And I'm getting screwed

Floyd Eye said:
Your other problems aside, I would say your biggest problem is the fact that this is your only source of income. It's fine to wanna be a rock star, but you need to be realistic. You need to get a job.
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#6
3star2nr said:
I have invested everything into this band, and making it work and its like I'm the only one who really cares. Worse part is its not my band I didn't start it I'm not the leader but I've been having to take all these responsibilities the gigs we have coming up I arranged and while the drummer and the guitarist were talking to chicks I was setting up gigs with another promoter who's coming to see us play on Saturday.

I really hate committing to something and not following through but enough is enough
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See the problem here?
 
#12
carl h. said:
Get your own project moving. These guys have made their intentions pretty clear.
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I would but I frankly don't think I have enough musical talent to do that I have wrote a couple originals but I'm not a guitar player or a drummer so my guitar parts are pretty mediocre.

My chord selections are pretty good, but I'm a back line man not a front man.

We have a working formula and a long list of great songs that people are connecting with.
 
#18
Floyd Eye said:
Maybe try to concentrate a little more on your financial situation. It's tough all over, but it ain't gonna get any easier if you're not trying. ;)
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Yeah that's exactly what I'm doing. You can bring a horse to water can't make them drink.
Obimark- its becoming obvious that we aren't ready, we've been writing for years and practicing for months. We played some open miss and were getting some buzz and connections, but if the attitude isn't there and the commitment there's no point.

I can't seem to explain that without an argument starting.

My goal is not to be a professional musician I've been put into this situation and I'm gonna give it my all. I just chose the wrong group of people I guess
 

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