girls getting in the way

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by 3star2nr, Jul 17, 2013.

  1. 3star2nr


    Jun 2, 2013
    I'm having a problem with my band. I need some advice on how to solve it. I'm in a trio. Were trying very hard to get more gigs, people dig what we play, we played 3 open mics and the croud loved it one girl even flashed us on stage lol.

    Anyway, we have a big gig coming up Saturday. We should be practicing and promoting all this week. Well the drummer avoided our calls to hang out with some chick. Which meant me and the guitarist had to walk for miles to print up flyers. The rain fell on the way back home last night so we decided to wake up early today reprint them then go postering. Well this morning I wake up he's gone out with some girl.

    This girl is bats it crazy she burnt the hell out of him a few months ago so much so he had to go to the hospital for treatment. He said they were done she show s up today and has been out all day.

    I feel like I'm the only one taking this seriously. I have a girlfriend but I made her know that I need to focus on this band as its my only viable source of income right now, she's giving me my space.

    How do I talk to them I feel like quitting the band and having them teach their chicks to play bass.

    To me its so stupid, its a simple balancing act, you know you have stuff to do get it done then spend time with the ladies, not ignore your responsibilities because some girl called.

    Its ****ing pathetic
  2. gidbass

    gidbass Supporting Member

    Aug 5, 2009

    Good luck!
  3. Floyd Eye

    Floyd Eye Inactive

    Feb 21, 2010
    St. Louis
    Your other problems aside, I would say your biggest problem is the fact that this is your only source of income. It's fine to wanna be a rock star, but you need to be realistic. You need to get a job.
  4. 3star2nr


    Jun 2, 2013
    I talked to the guitarist about it he says I'm using the band to manipulate him into making a decision he doesn't want to make.

    I don't even understand the logic behind that. The girl literally tried too kill him, and he chose her knowing full well we had stuff to do today. On top of that he's supposed to be meeting with another promoter tonight and it looks like hes gonna blow him off for the girl.

    I have invested everything into this band, and making it work and its like I'm the only one who really cares. Worse part is its not my band I didn't start it I'm not the leader but I've been having to take all these responsibilities the gigs we have coming up I arranged and while the drummer and the guitarist were talking to chicks I was setting up gigs with another promoter who's coming to see us play on Saturday.

    I really hate committing to something and not following through but enough is enough
  5. 3star2nr


    Jun 2, 2013
    ive been trying. But I'm caught between a rock and a hard place.

    No one wants to hire me until I get my engineering degree in December.

    And all the minimum wage jobs keep saying no.

    Giging is literally the only thing I have left

    And I'm getting screwed

  6. See the problem here?
  7. repoman


    Aug 11, 2011
    Kinderhook NY
    Girls are icky!
  8. elgecko


    Apr 30, 2007
    Anasleim, CA
    You might want to look up the meaning of "viable".
  9. 3star2nr


    Jun 2, 2013
    Yœre saying they aren't committed because they haven't done the ground work. Well how do I fix that? I seriously need help with this
  10. Get your own project moving. These guys have made their intentions pretty clear.
  11. Drama. You don't need that. Walk.
  12. 3star2nr


    Jun 2, 2013
    I would but I frankly don't think I have enough musical talent to do that I have wrote a couple originals but I'm not a guitar player or a drummer so my guitar parts are pretty mediocre.

    My chord selections are pretty good, but I'm a back line man not a front man.

    We have a working formula and a long list of great songs that people are connecting with.
  13. Bummer. Unless you're under contract - actually there is nothing you can really do other than talk with him and hope he comes around - or replace him. Good luck.
  14. DeathFromBelow

    DeathFromBelow Never Forget. Inactive

    Dec 23, 2010
    Horten, Norway
    Ahh, to be young again...
  15. 3star2nr


    Jun 2, 2013
    Yeah talked to the guitarist he stormed out. So yeah, I'm gonna forget about this band and try to get things together without them. I survived before it I'll survive after
  16. Floyd Eye

    Floyd Eye Inactive

    Feb 21, 2010
    St. Louis

    Maybe try to concentrate a little more on your financial situation. It's tough all over, but it ain't gonna get any easier if you're not trying. ;)
  17. Your band is ready for the big time because you got some good response at an open mic?? (it may take a little more than that)
  18. 3star2nr


    Jun 2, 2013
    Yeah that's exactly what I'm doing. You can bring a horse to water can't make them drink.
    Obimark- its becoming obvious that we aren't ready, we've been writing for years and practicing for months. We played some open miss and were getting some buzz and connections, but if the attitude isn't there and the commitment there's no point.

    I can't seem to explain that without an argument starting.

    My goal is not to be a professional musician I've been put into this situation and I'm gonna give it my all. I just chose the wrong group of people I guess
  19. Until then, maybe get a regular job - I just can not believe there is no minimum wage work there - where do you live?

    EDIT: You need your own transportation - you need to buy a car and insurance!!!
  20. I have one burning question.

    How is any of this the chic's fault(s)?????