Man, this sounds like my first band's drummer lol
The kid was talented...VERY talented and had plenty of energy and stage presence. Being about 4 years younger, he brought in a lot of the kids since he had lots of little chicas that loved coming to hear him play. Same problem as your guys though, all he was thinking with was his crotch. Flaked out on rehearsals (which were VERY few and far in between) to go waste time at the mall with this girl he spent 90% of his week with anyhow. He would only end up breaking up with them in a month or two and going right back to some other chick to do the same dang thing over and over again. Ended up joining the Air Force and getting married...if you ask me he completely wasted his talent and opportunities.
Coming from a guy that's been in that scenario more than a few times, it REALLY isn't worth your effort and time. A band is strangely similar to a business, where the band leader is typically the supervisor/boss. If people are wishy-washy about it and don't have any dedication, don't waste your capital training them and giving them work experience that they are only going to piss away. Hire somebody who is serious and is on the same page as you (I know, easier said than done. Been looking for a drummer for over a year now with no luck).
I will say this though, you will have FAR better chances of getting into a serious band if you have a steady job (doesn't have to be 9-5 monday to friday, but something with some decent cash flow is very helpful) and reliable transportation. I passed over a guitarist recently who was like "yeah, I wanna live in a tent outside the venue going on tour like Pantera!". Fine and dandy if that's what somebody sees as living the musicians dream, but that tells ME that they aren't a person who thinks things through. I mean, what if someone is puking or has diarrhea? Really wanna be stuck with that person in a tent? I wouldn't go on tour if I couldn't afford air conditioning or at least a roof over my head, that says I don't have the cash to do something like that. As "cool" as that sounds, a music career is no fairytale and the game has certainly changed since Pantera was up and coming.
I would also recommend branching out as much as possible with guitar. You can get drum loops/sequencers to help with song writing, but a guy who can write guitar and bass parts is a very dangerous contender. If you can bang out some chords, power chord riffs, and a few little solos here and there, you can develop into a song writer in time. The upside to this, is that people who are intimidated by writing but are good players, will be more likely to devote to your band and stay on with readymade material in the can. Once you get a taste of creative control, I think you will prefer it to having to rely solely on others for your riffs. Best of luck! Hang in there and don't let the boobs distract you on stage! lol
***EDIT - I would look seriously into some home recording solutions when money is available. Nothing fancy, grab a used Line 6 UX1 recording interface, a used beater guitar (Ibanez, Squier VM/CV, Schecter, Epiphone, etc), Reaper recording software, and a drum program like Addictive drums. We're talking somewhere in the ballpark of $350-400 for the whole shebang, but starting off with the Line 6 UX1 + guitar is a great place to start (you could get a trial version of the recording software or use Goldwave). There are MASSIVE amounts of resources online to get you going on guitar (chords, scales, tabs, how-to's), if nothing else just get some ideas down and recorded. If you're really serious about it, you never you know if you'll end up being a front man!
