Hello -
Just wanted to add an idea or two to this thread. To start, Ed Fuqua's most excellent post on
REALLY learning a tune was mentioned but not, as far as I saw, linked... so I will add that. If you haven't read this, you should. Now. Then re-read his most excellent response here.
With that said, Ed's approach, which I have encountered from other brilliant teachers as well, is super thorough... an awesome thing for when you are feeling disciplined. If you truly get into this music, you will likely spend the rest of your life working on certain tunes. There is always more to learn.
I read almost every post in this thread, and there is at least something to most of them worth considering. In general, I agree with those who suggest you just get a chart for the tune. Especially if you are new to jazz, why deprive yourself of all the resources that are out there today? A detailed study of a few standards will reap many benefits later on, as you familiarize yourself with the language of "inside jazz." With a few basics under your belt, learning by ear will be much easier later.
One idea that I think is missing here, and might be helpful for perspective, is a look at what is actually going on, harmonically speaking, on a tune like this.
Alone Together, as with so many other standards, was a show tune that long outlasted the musical it came from. These were basically well-known pop tunes of the day, and were usually played very straight, as in the example Ed linked, by Jo Stafford. That version is worth some repeated listening, not only to understand the melody, but to hear the basic underlying harmonic movement, which is actually very simple. It is easy to get overwhelmed by jazz progressions with elaborations, substitutions, and extensions if you don't understand where these came from and what purpose they serve. The main harmonic movement here is not a complex one. You are simply moving between I and V. Consider the first 8 bars of the tune:
(I) Alone... (V) together... (I) beyond the (V) crowd... (I) above the (V) world... (IV) we're not too proud...
Really, that's it. And if you play the tune very straight, and just play those basic chords, it will work. So, what the jazz cats did was, they took these pop tunes that everyone knew and "jazzed them up," adding more movement to the progressions and more swing and syncopation to the rhythm etc. So the common thing to do was to take a simple movement like (I) //// (V) //// and play (I)//// (ii)// (V)// or (I)// (vi)// (ii)// (V)//
instead. This generates more movement in the progression but all it really amounts to is taking a different path to the V chord.
This is important to understand because it clarifies the purpose of the ii-Vs in common jazz progressions. It also might clarify why rhythm changes are so important to learn. Rhythm changes would have been part of the common vocabulary of the original jazz cats, who then applied those ideas to show tunes to play them in the new style. So one of the keys to playing jazz is learning how to navigate ii-V cadences, but I think understanding where these came from and what they do can make it easier to get a handle on a standard. Many times you will find, when you strip the progression down to basics, you are just moving between I and V, possibly with a change or two in key centers, but even then... I and V.
Hopefully this makes some sense? To my way of thinking, stripping the progression down to the simplest, most basic movement makes things much more clear. YMMV.
Peace,
Cricket