I had a different but similar bullet-dodging moment about a year ago. I was getting back into playing after a number of years away due to life, family, etc…
I was doing the Craigslist circuit, jammed with probably 5-6 different people/projects, all in various states from just getting started to we have gigs booked and need a bass player yesterday.
One band in particular, cover band, somewhat established, and with gigs booked. I made it to the “final round” with one other dude. I didn’t get the gig.
Turns out they were recording the auditions. Now of course that’s not weird, or unexpected, but the fact that they were doing so surreptitiously, and I only learned about it after the fact, rubbed me the wrong way. Seems like the kind of thing you’d give someone a courtesy heads-up about.
But more so than the secret recording, the leader made it sound like they were using accuracy to the original recordings as their main barometer. Again, OK, maybe that is important, maybe you don’t want someone being overly interpretive in a cover band, but does fit, or feel, matter at all?
It was a terrible situation, and I’m so glad it didn’t work out. They’re already on another drummer a year later (he was the only one I really liked), and some other personality-type things I observed with this group were major red flags.
A couple months later, I finally fell in with the right project a guy was starting up. We filled out the rest of the group with very talented musicians, who are all thoroughly decent human beings. For the first time in forever I am having so much GD fun playing music again, and I am thankful every day the bad situation/secret recording thing didn’t work out.
So to the OP, I have no doubt you would’ve gone in and kicked ass with that group, but sometimes things just unfold the way they should, even if there’s a little ding to your pride.